Well, isn’t this just an interesting bookend to the story earlier today about the 12 years old girl arrested for grabbing a boy’s butt at school. Takeaway: if you are a girl who participates in the same behavior as the boys, you will get arrested. If you are a grown-ass man who assaults girls, you will get a primo job…

I don’t understand why that was allowed in the first place when such consent would be invalid anyway—not only for her age, but for their student-teacher relationship which makes consent murky (at best) with or without the issue of age...

So they’re blaming a child for not knowing what to do when she was assaulted? Logical and obviously keeping the child’s best interests at heart.

So glad CA barred the use of consent when talking about cases with minors. I almost had a conniption when I read about a “consentual” sexual relationship between a 40 yo teacher and his student. FUCK THAT SHIT.

Yeah, hard to see how this could’ve been handled worse.

The prosecution fucked this one up. The women should have been told all of this way before the trial. That the women are now saying that they only learned about the power of “post-incident conduct” during the trial is a complete indictment of the failure of the prosecution. The prosecutors should have been sitting…

There was a story on Deadspin the other day about a coach harassing a reporter with excerpts from their texts. Numerous dudes in the comments were saying, “But she didn’t say no!” even though every damn exchange ended with her explicitly saying “no” and trying to keep it professional.

I know. I had a lawsuit case at my doctorate granting institution and people I trusted advised me not to sue because it would destroy my credibility and it would destroy the credentials of the other students. It IS life or death shit after you choose to live in poverty for 7 years plus. If you walk away, how can any…

It’s not just sexual harassers. I had a full-on workplace bully a few jobs ago, and my boss, his supervisor, and HR all encouraged me to stop defending myself verbally and agree with him more.

We were banned from being in the same building alone together, because the man had made death threats against me, but i was…

Yes! If your first reaction isn’t ‘YOU CREEP!’ followed by a kick in the dick, it’s basically your own fault for letting it go too far.

It extends to every social interaction with guys like that. The cashier smiled and said “have a nice day”? She totally wants it. That woman on the subway didn’t run away? Wants it. The admin asked how his weekend was? Wants it.

Interesting. The Rams as an organization don’t seem like the kind of people who make handshake deals with the league and other teams that benefits their organization while not taking into account their players.

Uncomfortable laughter = flirting

Yeah-with some men, being collegial at a basic level seems to be a broad invitation to them to believe that sex is a possibility. I have had this experience. It makes you feel like you shouldn’t be friendly at all to male colleagues after that, which will sabotage your ability to get things done in the long run. There…

And as is generally recommended by the Powers That Be, who insist that Dude is a “nice guy” and “just likes you” and “you should give him a chance!”

I love how if a woman’s first instinct is to try to diffuse the situation (as it is for most women) that becomes ‘encouraging it’ aka flirting.

Especially since to some creeps ANY communication is “flirting”.

She is never getting tenure now, effectively ending her academic career either way - which to academics is some life or death shit. It’s a big deal for her to file this lawsuit.

He sought an intimate relationship with Ms. Ravina, insisting that she meet him off-campus, touching her inappropriately, demanding that she compliment him, describing her as “sexy,” and indicating that he was “horny.”

with one unnamed person calling her situation a “soap opera” and “accusing her of flirting with her harasser.”