Agree with your first paragraph. I wish I could agree with the second, unfortunately, it’s one thing for people to be aware of those things “in theory”, and another to truly believe, and practice, them. And that’s the sad truth. I bet a lot of these Missouri Republicans really do believe that a girl who dresses a…

Fuck sexism, thank you for knocking some sense into me and making me realize the real danger to society is the slippery slope of hyphenated names throughout the generations. You’re a hero, Sir.

On an individual level, maybe. But when you see it as part of a wider set of trends on a macro level...

I don’t think it’s about women being dumb or not. I think most of the time women believe that the name change thing isn’t a thing anymore, that it’s not as politically fraught anymore because many women really do think we live in a post-gender society and we’re equal now and keeping your name is for 2nd wave feminazis…

No, I don’t. Because the rules of polite society are different than those of internet discussions where you can express opinions more freely without worrying that, for example, your friends will think you’re judging them for their choices. Not that it stops people from side-eyeing women who keep their names and…

That 60+% includes all women, not just married women. The breakdown is like this: “Sixty percent of the women polled legally changed their surname to their husband’s name, 11 percent of women kept their maiden name and only 8 percent opted to hyphenate or otherwise combine their maiden name with their husband’s name.…

And that’s fine. But if that’s your choice, you should also own it and accept that you chose a sexist tradition, rather than arguing those traditions aren’t sexist because you don’t like admitting it LOL

I dunno, my only issue with it (aside general vapidity) is the far-from-subtle message that if you want to have an awesome time and join this sorority, you have to look, act and sound exactly as shown. Really, it’s just High School with more people, more booze, and much more clearly regimented social structure. But…

I think greek organizations are stupid but I agree that if you don’t like them, just don’t join. At the same time, I don’t think it’s fair that they dominate campus culture in some schools, as if they are representative of the student body. They’re not. They’re representative of their members.

I think the greek system is stupid too but I think it’s up to individual schools to decide if they want to be affiliated with them or not. And if they are, they get to decide what rules to impose on them re: diversity and recruitment. The easiest would probably be for frats and sororities to be private clubs with no…

No, I didn’t say women are needy and clingy if they bring up marriage, I said they’re perceived as such. And if real life is so different, why don’t more women propose to their boyfriends in real life?

I never said it had, I just said it had evolved more than these practices have, which have remained the same except now we dress them up as “tradition” and “cultural practice”. Marriage has evolved because women no longer have to wait to remarry, adultery isn’t a crime anymore and it’s not defined as something only…

No, that’s not only what internalised sexism is. It’s a lot more complex than that and includes perpetuating traditions rooted in sexism. Why do so many women “want” to change their names whereas so few men do, if it’s true that, as you claim, there’s no sexism in the practice anymore?

Oh, please. It’s in every relationship self-help book, romcom, sitcom, and popular culture. You must be living under a rock if you’re not aware of it.

“Marriage proposals are sexist because women are seen as desperate/needy if they are the ones who bring up marriage first”. Right. And that’s wrong, because?

Because they should just let in any African migrant who makes it across the Mediterranean alive... Never mind that Europe is in a shitty economic situation with huge unemployment rates. I’m not saying they shouldn’t be doing way more in terms of aid and development in Africa and also to stop human traffickers from…

*sigh* The UN doesn’t supersede national law, you know? And immigration issues are most definitely an area where countries would be loathe to give up any sovereignty and despite what international humanitarian law says, not like countries don’t violate intentional law every day. Hell, Israel does it on a daily basis…

I don’t think women are seen as desperate or needy when they bring up marriage first..

I never said it was. I’m saying what I think about these (in my view) silly and sexist traditions and how I intend to live my life. I’m not telling anyone what to do with theirs, just to at least be honest and acknowledge the very sexist nature of the traditions that they’re buying into.

Yes I do. That, and cringeworthy if they involve an audience and/or any other kind of attention grabbing scheme. If I’m going to keep working and contributing to the household and I’m getting married to enter into an equal partnership, why should the decision of when to do it belong solely to the man? I would expect…