The one time I tried this (genders reversed though) I donked my girlfriends head on the ceiling and it ruined everything. Sex helmets could have prevented this.

I'll tell you what, boys: if you can find something to wear other than a grubby t-shirt and jeans, shave once in awhile, spend as much time on your hair and skin in the morning as women do, and learn how to make eyes at me across the room, I'll ask you out and pay for your dinner. Of course, I reserve the right to…

If she's that strong, I would prefer she just carry me around, Arianna Grande-style.

Truth. I felt like I was alone in supporting Christian Bale's rant about the guy who kept mucking up at work when he was all, "He's a nice guy, a nice guy.... but that doesn't fucking cut it does it?" I'm over the concept of "nice." All it means is not outwardly malicious. Being nice is not a virtue if all you do…

I was referencing the excellent piece above. Not don't talk about the issues. Not don't fight racism with everything you have. I should have worded my comment more carefully to make that clear. Don't be this person:

One of my favorite quotes about feminism, that may be quite relevant to this conversation, too:

I guess you mean well.

ALL SARCASM ASIDE I WOULD LIKE A DOUBLE FUDGE PLS

It is awfully close to "So ARTICULATE!"

I am a good white person. ... And do you know what? I don't see a need to apologize for it.

"Nice diction"?

This concept is important.

That line made me think of the 100,000 damn times I have argued on this site about how intentions don't matter if you consistently do the wrong thing. Your intention can only be pure once (if that); after that it's willful ignorance.

Is a member of another oppressed minority (First Nations), I disagree quite strongly with this.

Well, now we have a long thread on how these ideas and realities affect "good white people." Kind of makes the author's point, no?

As a white person myself (who tries my best to resist the racism embedded in our society), I think the idea is not that you shouldn't delete trolls or be outraged. It's that you shouldn't congratulate yourself for it. So many white people make it about themselves by insisting that they "get it" or that they're "one of…

Didn't someone once say that he who is wisest is him who admits he knows nothing? I've found, equally paradoxically, that, as a white person, I may contribute less to the system of racism the more I recognize just how racist I truly am.

Well what's the point of maintaining 4 separate social media accounts if I can't use them to constantly bombard everyone I know with how special I am? You want me to be good just for the sake of it? With no selfies or hashtags even?

As a white person, I was wondering why the author didn't answer those questions, but then I realized that it's not their job to tell me how to be a decent human being. After all, it's not "positive behaviors" us good white people want to be congratulated for; we expect to be patted on the back for treating black…

This was really amazing. I'll be sure to keep my eye out for your book when it comes.