I just looked it up an apparently it happens in Mexico, so perhaps that's why a) I hadn't seen it before (because I hadn't been to any latino weddings) and b) it was expected at mine (because my husband's grandparents all came from Mexico and a good two thirds of the guests were latino). No idea how accurate that is,…

AMAZING.

Haha! Maybe it's a California-specific thing. (I'd actually never seen it at any weddings I've attended, but my in-laws and several guests told me it's an absolute must.)

No, they weren't complaining — it was just something none of them (ten or twelve people of varying ages) had ever encountered before. It was the first (and only) time I'd heard of it, either, in two countries and in a mostly not-at-all-well-off social circle. I think it makes total sense to limit the bar if a couple…

I work with hotels so there was no way I wanyed to get married in one! (Actually if it'd been in London I probably would've because we could've got good discounts, but it was in Los Angeles and I couldn't swing anything in a hotel there.)

It's mental, isn't it? I got married in January in Los Angeles and we spent less than $3,000 for EVERYTHING (venue, car, cake, full open bar with cocktails and shots and all, my clothes and shoes, make up, hair, photography, music, decorations, flowers… everything) and we had 115-ish guests.

I had no idea people were going to give us cash at our wedding, and was stunned to open the envelopes the next day. I just assumed they were cards.

Ha, we had the opposite happen! I didn't expect to get any money at all (somehow I didn't know that was a thing) and I secretly freaked out a great deal because we were spending two or three thousand dollars in total… and then of course some of the relatives were so unexpectedly generous that we made it all back…

I somehow totally didn't know that guests give money gifts and was really surprised by how much we were given, but even so the vast majority of our friends didn't give us anything other than super dancing, looking amazing, being brilliant, etc. It was AMAZING (and on what I now find out is a budget that's a tenth of…

Or skip the florist entirely — I just went to the flower market the day before the wedding and bought a ton of that white fluffy stuff (baby's breath?) and then spent hours and hours and hours and hours decorating with it. I think the trade off is money vs time — I was only in the country two weeks before my wedding,…

Definitely true on the cakes — they bakery we went with would charge us about $500 for wedding cake for our 115 guests, but we just bought amazing massive beautiful non-wedding cakes from them for about $100, less than $1 per guest.

I've never been to a wedding that wasn't entirely open bar, and when a colleague had a pay bar at hers it was the shocked talk of the office the next day. I was adamant about overstocking the bar at ours, and it was very much worth it.

Shots are VITAL. (I somehow think my whole wedding worked out at something insane like $20 a person, including everything we wore/transport/venue/open bar/food/hair/make up/photography/invitations/save the dates/thank you cards… but it was a lot of work. Fun, though!)

Right?! When we were planning ours we kept agonizing over the massive, massive expense (it ended up being $2/3,ooo) but there was absolutely no way I was going to have a pay bar, or just open bar for wine or beer. Our wedding was absolutely going to have limitless whisky and gin. It was brilliant.

I think mine, in January, cost $2,ooo or $3,000 (it was one or the other; I've blocked it out of my mind already because to us that was a fuck load of money that we couldn't really afford).

Somehow the open bar at my (very drunk) wedding didn't cost us an insane amount… we got everything at BevMo and it seemed pretty reasonable (and I hesitated over spending £200 on my dress, so when I say "reasonable" in real terms I probably mean "really fucking cheap"). I'd been dreading it but it wasn't so much at…

Good Lord! That's terrifying. (I'm know sort of weirdly wondering if I did my wedding horribly "wrong" because it only cost us about $3,000… perhaps everyone we know was secretly judging us!)

That made me have uncontrollable giggles and my mother is here and she wants me to explain myself and I can't.

I didn't get the attraction at all until I saw him in person and then I found him quite attractive indeed. Diamond!

Pharrell once looked at me while making a suggestive dance move. Life was good.