Between this and some posts I’ve seen from reddit about how to sow discord amongst the left it’s clear to me that in the 21st century activists won’t be battled by COINTELPRO, but by internet trolls. As an organizer in the late 90s and early 2000s we talked a lot about “safety culture” to combat government…

I thought the whole point of birth plans is that everyone follows them. WTF?

Ahem, I think Trump prefers the P street band.

He’s like that kid in high school who decided that he is throwing THE spring break party since his parents are going to his great aunts funeral. He got his older brother to get a pony keg and his dad’s stereo system still works pretty well. He spent a week making a playlist on his iPod and he’s going to lose his…

He’s currently inviting (read: begging) people on his personal facebook page to attend for free. I registered for tickets and obviously will not be going. I will be making my sign for the NYC women’s march while watching literally anything else on tv instead.

Close the animal acts to get whatever groups off your back and continue with the aerobatics and other non animal acts.

I think it would have been really hard for them to keep touring AND run the government in Washington DC.

Don’t get bogged down by picky details that can be easily changed later. Focus on location, size/layout, and the systems (HVAC, plumbing, and electrical). As long as it’s not a total dump, you can replace flooring, paint, light fixtures and whatnot easily and relatively inexpensively. My BFF is a Realtor, and he’s…

I get two messages today saying “do you want to date” and “I want to see you.”

Get a home on the low end of what you can afford. Pay extra every single month on your mortgage. I paid my 30 year fixed loan off in 7 years so ever since I just pay upkeep and property taxes. It saves soooo much money in interest.

Get someplace nice but don’t be house poor. Also, while most people do want to move in 5 years, buy a place that you could comfortably live in for longer. I bought a 2 bedroom condo in 2006 thinking that I’d move in 5 years when we had a kid. We owned that place for 9 years because the housing market tanked.

LOCATION! It’s amazing how many people get hung up on decor. When my best friend was looking to buy she was looking in a brand new subdivision behind the Walmart. I told her, “These are new and shiny now, but in 10 years these will be the old houses behind the Walmart.”

Stories like this are why 40-60% of my generation spent most of their teen years convinced they were seperated from their real parents at birth.

Oh, and you will be SO appreciative when you do own your own place.

I can’t even imagine the piles of money one must have laying around to think that spending 10s of thousands of dollars on a wedding is a good use of said piles. If my mom surprised me tomorrow with ‘Oh, btw I saved $30k for your wedding, surprise!’ I’d take a moment to mentally picture the wedding I could have with…

I think for parents well-to-do enough to be able to foot the bill, a nice wedding is part of fitting in socially. Invite their friends to a fancy party. If their kid had a Pinterest backyard party, it would be bad because they attended all their friends’ kids’ fancy parties.

My parents didn’t have the money to help me out, but my husband grew up with grandparents and parents who were able to pay for his tuition so that he graduated with a masters debt-free. His parents also helped us with a down payment and gave us $20k for our wedding (we paid for the rest). I think that they wanted my…

These kinds of truth-telling are so critical. Imagine Fifty Shades of Grey being made about the intimacy of people’s finances, instead of their sex lives. It would never have gotten made, because it would be considered so transgressive.

Yeah, I have to remind myself of that when I see friends buying homes or going on fabulous vacations- even though I have a higher salary than they do. Their parents paid for their college. Their parents helped with a down payment. My parents are wonderful people who gave me a lot, and I am terribly lucky, but things…

Any stories that Jezebel publishes about money and poverty as it relates to all kinds of women are stories I want to read. There’s so much shame and secrecy about finances in our culture, and stories like this have a way of lancing those boils and making everything clearer and easier for everybody.