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Often both, but the overall purpose of a mission is the latter more than the former.

With all the abandoned cars around, how come they never thought of putting them outside, in front of the wall?

That’s an old photo. Both of them are skinny, skinny, skinny now, and not really in a good way.

That’s your takeaway from this post? Really?

Yes, I was really surprised to see photos of them after I read the original piece. She is cute, and he is... not exactly my cup of tea. Maybe it was just my expectations from the article, but they don’t seem like one is objectively better-looking than the other. That makes their dynamic a bit more suspect for me. I…

No, I couldn’t do that. I almost completely follow the train of thought of this article, but I just couldn’t fucking do it. I’m just barely walking the line of self-esteem already.

This is her alter ego, Dim Kavis.

Yeah no I'd be pretty sad, but that's because most of my insecurities come from my body and the way I look. Spending your teen years as the ugly friend, then hitting uni and having people only want to fuck you rather than know you plays havoc on your self-esteem. I'd want to be with someone that, at the very least,…

I have a long distance on/off relationship with a guy I’ve known since I was in my teens, and he came to see me recently after our not having met in 6 or 7 months, and somehow it came out that he “was a little freaked out about how much weight you’ve gained.” Even though I initiated the conversation and he was nice…

Well, if you tortured it out of your partner like this lady did then you’d have no one to blame but yourself. I mean, of course, everyone wants to feel attractive to their lovers. But when he tells you that he does find you beautiful, say thank you and feel good. This lady won’t let it lie.

Nope. Speaking as someone who actually has experienced this, many times over (I’m ugly, so guys usually date me out of desperation or despite my looks) it is incredibly devastating, and really does a number on your self-esteem.

You're not alone, no....but part of me is asking why. I think we women need to learn how to be the instigators and desirers and pursuers who are focused more on our partner's attractiveness than our own. Because the way it is now is pretty miserable.

Not exactly the same topic but similar in terms of ego-bruising: I’ve had more than 1 partner tell me that I physically appear very sexy, but that I don’t ACT sexy. For example, I once put on lingerie for my ex, and promptly waited on the bed in our room for him to come in. Once he saw what my intentions were, he was…

No, I would be too. I have enough insecurities; if someone I was in a serious relationship with told me that, I’d be crushed.

I agree. I think this dynamic would be a deal-breaker for me. You can see photos of them on the internet, and he is not the Adonis she makes him out to be. The author is clearly very in love with him - which makes him beautiful in her eyes. That he doesn’t have the same feelings about her is sad. She is a perfectly…

Yeah, I couldn’t deal. I’m pretty vain and place a lot of emphasis on self care and staying in shape. (I’m pretty sure most commenters here have seen my wedding butt tattoo, retroactive thanks for stroking my ego guys)

You’ve just described my boyfriend to a T (in our relationship, I’m the horrible person who’s not physically attracted to him). It’s certainly incredibly difficult for both of us; him due to feelings of rejection in terms of looks, etc., and me in terms of incredible guilt for hurting someone I deeply love. On the…

LOL thank you ms. chananderler. I am fairly confident in my appearance (I’m no Adonis but I think I’m fairly attractive) and she thinks so too (well except for my small (but wide) feet that somehow defy physics and keep me upright :-/ )

Everyone on TV is hotter than people IRL. If I were jealous of celebrities/fictional characters my partner found attractive, and he of me, we’d both explode. There’s a huge difference between the looks of someone who, for all intents and purposes isn’t real, and say, the way they look at the neighbor.