LOL! As near as I can tell, the "social alpha" always wins, and I'm 90% sure you're supposed to let your parents win unless A) you've reached that point where your generation is more of the focus of the social group or, B) you have a chance to show off how well-off you are to their friends/family. The Persians I know l…

There's a lot about this case that kind of makes me go, "huh?" I mean, if she was fleeing police, wouldn't that be reason enough to track her down and get her into custody? Isn't it illegal to run away from the police? If they had enough reason to pursue her in the first place, isn't it unusual to just give up?

It breaks my heart that everything you've said rings very true. There's so many terrible things happening everywhere... so much injustice... and there's no good solution that I can see. I feel like there's not much accountability for people that can help... and those who can't just ignore because it's easier than…

That was part of my embarrassment over the whole tarof thing as I grew older - I tend to take after my father's side of the family and they're very frugal types. My dad likes to joke about his "Scotch frugality" sometimes, which I guess is cute when you're in your 50s?

I loved it, when I served. I hated bussing so much... especially when people left everything spread out. Ohh, even worse is when rude people decide to dump random things into their drink glass to make some disgusting concoction that inevitably spills on me :(

So, I'm half-Persian. This means that when I go out with Farsi speaking friends/relatives, we sometimes get the servers who equate non-English-Speakers with being stiffed and it's sometimes evident in the occasional eye-roll or stiff smile. I used to be a server, myself, so I'm not at all unfamiliar with that attitude.

You make lots of really good points above, and obviously we'll need more facts to determine what really happened here. I do appreciate your input very much, as it's helped me see the flip side of the story much better.

I had a complicated delivery (v. premature baby), so I took a week off. 1 week. I took 1 week off to heal. I went back to full-time employment, with a duffel bag full of necessities (breast pump, monster pads, tuck's wipes, squirt bottle, clothes/blankets for baby, pictures of baby, extra clothes, etc.), and did my…

Agreed. If the appropriate authority didn't have the manpower, they certainly should have called for help - even if that meant asking for volunteers or whatever other first responders that could mobilize. I'd be throwing an unholy fit if this happened to someone in my family.

I do understand that, but you don't know for certain that they didn't have the resources to track her down. The fact that she was gone for 11 days is kind of awful, too. It's one thing if she was only gone for a day or two and - whoops! in her apartment all along! But she was gone for almost two weeks... and her…

I have no idea... but someone should have the authority and obligation to search for a missing person. Especially if that person may be mentally ill.

I know a couple who has gotten past an affair. It's a dealbreaker for both my husband and myself, though. We've already established that an affair would be inexcusable, so I'm there with you on that. I just included it because a lot of couples (my parents, included) somehow get past affairs.

That's a really important point! PDs shouldn't be able to use that as a reason... they should be enabled to take care of their jurisdiction. Even if it's "nothing."

I struggle with this kind of thing daily... I see so many broken systems. So many people being failed by each other. I just want to stop everything and reorganize and fix... but all I see are political ads about Jerk A and Jerk B throwing mud at each other over stupid things and nobody is getting down to business…

If your first year was really tough because you questioned your decision to be married, you're maybe going to have some trouble down the road...

I do understand what you're saying and I'm not disagreeing so much as questioning how this can be fixed?

I had no idea this was a thing, to be honest. I only really hear about black/white racial tension. Maybe I'm in a happy little bubble where that's concerned, but I do try to keep up with news and such, so I'm surprised it's gotten past me if it's a widespread problem. But then again, I don't live near a reservation or…

They didn't even half-ass a search? I can't believe they can get away with not even pretending to look for a missing person. That's absolutely disgusting. What could she possibly have done to deserve that kind of utter disregard?

I made my point poorly.

This might be an unpopular opinion... but I am NOT a fan of pregnant women that just demand being waited on during their pregnancies.