I don’t really have the issue of professional stuff because I’m a SAHM and have been for a long ass time and probably will be for an even longer ass time. I feel like we are incredibly low risk for divorce and in that scenario my name would be the least of my worries. I’d be more concerned about figuring out how to…

Hmm. My kids would probably not speak in this scenario, but duly noted.

I think that would not be fun for the kids (who have my name as well anyways), and it’s also pretty expensive to do that.

Yeah, I think I’ll do mine as a second middle name because that’s what our kids have.

Why not? A friend of mine just legally changed her first and last names. She said after 35 years her name still didn’t suit her, so she chose new ones. I’ve know her for 27 years so it’s a bit of an adjustment. No idea what her parents think. Ha.

I totally get what you are saying. I don’t know if I feel that just because I’d actually be the odd one out amongst my friends and family if I changed it. A lot of my family is French-Canadian and they don’t change names In Quebec. And most of the women in my family and friends are really career driven and didn’t want…

They should arrange a marriage between one of their kids and on of my science teacher’s kids and it could be the Dick-Butts wedding. They could have Dick-Butts children.

That would almost be worth it.

Where did I say it was more important? This isn’t about importance.

I’m from a family of divorce as well. But yeah - I would be happier that way. As I said elsewhere, if I were to choose a parent to be attached to by name, it would be my mum. But that’s my middle name and I don’t want to be Heather Lee Lee. Ha. I don’t really feel like keeping my dad’s name. He wasn’t a terrible dad,…

I wonder if it’s different when you’re the mom, because nobody has ever seemed suspicious of me. I even travel alone with my kids several times a year and the airlines don’t ask for any ID or birth certificates or anything. Maybe they would if we went international. Definitely schools and hospitals have never cared.

Yes, that was a big part of my opposition to it. My name is very Scottish. My husband’s is also very Swedish. But now I don’t really care. It’s a freaking name.  

My mum’s surname is my middle name, so my name would sound really silly if I changed to hers. But I feel you on that. I’d rather be attached to my mum through names than my dad. And apparently I’d rather be attached to my husband that way as well. I guess then I’d have name attachments to all my favourite people.

I don’t really see how it’s less patriarchal to keep a name that was automatically bestowed upon me by my philandering father.

ETA: Although I do agree that Batman would be a good choice.

Finally I can partake in a garden thread! I’ve got my veggie garden going and my handy husband built me a greenhouse cover on hinges for it. I have zucchini, cucumber, green beans, broccoli, cauliflower, red cabbage, a variety of lettuces, and brussels sprouts. And then I have a herb garden on my upstairs deck.

What sort of doggo is this? Looks so much like my wee one when her hair gets longer. I don’t often see pups that look like her.

Gorgeous weather! We are having an amazing spring. Can’t be sad when the sun is shining. There’s the odd little summer type shower to keep everything green. But it’s mostly sun and cold drinks and backyard bonfires. Oh and the school year is almost over. OH YES.

They have both our last names and we made his the official last name because it flowed better in that order. So my girls have a first name, middle name, then my name like a second middle name, and then his name. I would never have reversed that because a) it doesn’t sound good and b) I wanted to give them really sweet…

The Patriarchy is responsible for the last name I have now. Maybe my whole family should change our last name to Awesome.

Yeah, I used to be fiercely pro-my last name. And I still enjoy the history of it, but I don’t feel like I need to have it attached to me to enjoy the history and know I’m part of it.

I guess that’s it. I don’t care as much about my own name and at this stage of my life I feel more connected to this little group of…

You never know. Literally I woke up one day and was like “Hey, I know what I want to do...”. Weird.

That was my whole reason for keeping my name in the first place. My mum went through that with her divorce. It was really irritating because she was born in the UK and changing it back took forever. She’s remarried now…