And they were just kidding when they “pretend” bumped up against you in the serving area all those times, and were just kidding when they commented on your ass, and I’m sure it was an accident when they tripped and grabbed your boobs.

When I was a cocktail waitress, I worked at a popup club put on by a couple guys who had never worked in the nightclub Industry. They were horrified by the way we spoke to each other and how customers treated us. It’s weird to think back on how much abusive behavior I justified, because we worked at the coolest places…

Thank you for nothing else but knowing that its “hear hear” and not “here, here”. I quit dating someone after they called it the glove department and another when we heard “I love Rock n roll” and she screamed how much she LOVED Janis Joplin. # Petty # privilege # 1WP

Yes! My first harrassment experience. I walked out right after I got my boobs honked. Never went back. Kept my Bennigans polo. 8 years later I got my back paycheck (for a whole week) from the state of Florida. Who would have guessed that would be the first of many times - since 16/ curently 43.

Honestly, I am kind of surprised that airlines haven’t seized on minor free flights. I generally find flying very pleasant, EXCEPT for kids, and most businessfolk I know feel the same. 21+ cinemas are awesome, why not flights?

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Look up Jen Agg (theblackhoof) on twitter and instagram.

30 year old managers sleeping with 16 year old waitresses? CHECK.

Quick check: I have a Master’s degree in genetics, a second-place finish in the city spelling bee (6th grade division), I wrote a guide to NZ citizenship, and I can play “Just Can’t Get Enough” on my old Farfisa organ. Should I be able to breastfeed on a plane without getting kicked off?

Add Samuel L. Jackson just because?

Ugh you got it exactly. The restaurant industry is just abusive in every way. Choosing between the male manager groping me and the female manager throwing menus at me.

Totally agree. It doesn’t matter if someone has a degree in molecular biology, is a teacher, is a postal worker, a barista, whatever. I hate that bullshit.

Laugh at all their sexist jokes, listen to them berate all the women on the line, judging customers, servers, etc

I agree - I have to be honest, I actually thought “who gives a fuck?” to myself as I read. Someone’s degrees or job should have zero impact on whether or not they are treated with basic decency - this site above all should get that.

Yep. It was important to be one of the cool ones

Ditto! At 19 I worked with 70 guys and 3 women in a club. They would have a map race every summer. They would try and sleep with as many women from different states as possible, with special “prizes” for Hawaii and Alaska. Not only did the update the map at Sunday meetings, they would have signs for free drinks if…

I have a friend who worked in the bar/restaurant industry for a long time and it’s amazing how much of that toxic behavior she thinks is completely acceptable and that it’s totally cool to act like that too.

Hear, hear. As good as it’s been to expose sexism and harassment in the media and in politics, this is an area where harassment is pervasive and where people who are particularly vulnerable to abuse are concentrated.

I hate to admit it, but SHS is really really good at her job. She can tell the lies with a straight face, and convincingly act offended when the administration gets called out on pretty much anything. I’ve rarely seen her get ruffled. I have to hand it to her for nailing the skills necessary in that position, and in…

Honestly, I wake up in cold sweats sometimes remembering the things I said before I was aware I had internalized the message of the patriarchy. It’s like she said above (I hope) we were like children, and thought and spoke like the same.