@CarolineGoodbye99: People definitely don't understand what "feminist" means anymore. The mainstream understanding of the word is "ugly bulldyke manhater who wants to force vegetarianism and unitarianism on you, right after they take your guns and beer away". Why do you think Gaga had to do something so ridiculous as…
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@la femme etranger: Unfortunately, the position of "feminist" is indeed controversial..... too many people have listened to MRA's attempts to smear feminists as man-haters, "bulldykes", and entrench the idea that feminist women cannot be truly effeminate - culturally they are seen as (in the words of Atwood)…
@leslieannelevine: I hear you. There is letting people choose their choices, and then there is just calling out assholery. It's fair to judge people - including women - on their choices and the consequences of what they choose. I am getting tired of calling women on abusing beauty privilege being mislabeled as…
@Manly McBeeferton: Feminism is also about breaking down male privilege. Men (well, anyone, actually) who cannot imagine a world without such privilege, percieve what would objectively be the equalization of the sexes, as the subjugation of men by women. An analogy: Imagine you are wealthy by inheritance, but it is…
@a4ashley: It was a joke. This was at the height of TME's popularity and parents were buying them for hundreds - like Cabbage Patch Dolls.
@MsLongstocking: Lola agrees with you. Madonna, circa 1997: "I dropped ten grand on that thing. And it wasn't worth it, because every time it comes near her, she starts shrieking in terror."
@notafeministbut: Word. Someone said on this site not long ago that being queer is ONLY about who you sleep with, and nothing else. Um, no. People really think it can be compartmentalized like that! I suppose they don't realize how their own sexuality informs their lives, because het privilege makes it feel seamless.
@notafeministbut: Word. Someone said on this site not long ago that being queer is ONLY about who you sleep with, and nothing else. Um, no. People really think it can be compartmentalized like that! I suppose they don't realize how their own sexuality informs their lives, because het privilege makes it feel seamless.
@fortheloveof38: Not every woman experiences birth in the same way. Many women find it painful, arduous and long, but sometimes it is only some of those things, and other times it is none.
@Maria Jackson: He called me "sweetheart". He folded himself in three places (he is tall and I am short) and kissed me on the cheek with utmost tenderness. Everything about his demeanor - the tone of his voice, the way he looked at me and touched me, the energy of his very presence - made me feel infinitely precious…
Has anyone submitted "Keep walking, fatass!" yet?
I can't really enjoy pictures of Megan Fox anymore, not since a girl on an ED forum I frequent disclosed that her boyfriend told her he'd love her more if she looked more like MF.
@ladyfalcon is skin deep: His old podcasts are like crack. I highly recommend looking them up.
@ZiggyStarPuff: He is more wonderful than you can imagine. Based on what happened when I met him, I will love - as he says; "ACTUALLY love" - him forever.
@Shinta: No, it isn't "the entire argument". The entire argument is that Oppression Olympics are not useful, and bringing up unrelated types of misery in a discussion about something which is a present and hurtful phenomenon in women's lives is a silencing tactic. Of course I would rather be me, with my first-world…
@Justine: I agree with you; I have said elsewhere that it is grossly unjust to judge women for something they cannot control (genetics) instead of their choices and their achievements. But the sad fact remains that we aren't there yet, and we will never get there if we don't thoroughly examine our values and…
@Shinta: I hear what you are saying, but the problem comes in because saying "this discussion is problematic; here's why," is dangerously close to, "this discussion is not worth having; let's focus on [what I define as] REAL problems". You're not talking in a vacuum; especially on sites aimed at women. People get…
Take that, feminists! Women like that really exist - they're not all just photoshopped and "unrealistic".
@Shinta: Yes. astridjane said exactly what I meant. It's funny that you posted Maslow's heirarchy because my Mom used to keep it posted on our fridge as a teaching tool for my brother and I. My belief is that when someone lives in a society that is set up to provide their basic needs for them, seamlessly (which is how…