Because maybe I'm making too big a deal of it. Because maybe he's right. Because he's sick/going through a rough patch. Because maybe it won't happen again. Because maybe I did do something wrong.
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She's a very busy strawfeminist, that lady, striding across the country, ripping doors from male hands. Didn't Jez just cover that door question recently? Or was it Amanda Marcotte?
This is how I picture you telling every woman what catcalling is about and when men tell a woman to smile is about.
In 2013 I can count three times a strange man I had never met has told me to smile. Yes, told. Not a suggestion, but, "Smile!" Two of those times I was probably just thinking about hot dogs and totally confused when this strange person needed me to smile for them, as if they were entitled to my happiness, but one of…
Wow. Thanks for letting me know that unless you notice something happening near you, you can't believe that it's happening if and only if it was reported by a woman.
I'm just curious: what kind of evidence would convince you? Are there some women that you would believe, or once any woman reports that they've been told to smile immediately untrustworthy?
One's reading comprehension would need to be broken not to understand his comment is exactly the same thing. And really, what else is a catcall if not a comment? Not exactly a "crazy" stretch.
But he ISN'T affirming her choices. She's affirming his.
Exactly. Each of these signs might as well end with, "Stop being so hysterical - my actions are never influenced by cultural expectations of my gender and yours." #irony
Yeah, there's that as well. Saying "it's OK I do the housework because I'm just better at it" without questioning why the man was never taught to sew, or whatever, isn't exactly groundbreaking stuff.
My finger hovered over the dismiss button, but you know, discourse. Here's the thing, I'm going to completely skip that overwrought "self reports of women" bit and focus on the cat-calling bit instead. Cat-calling isn't about desire. It isn't even about attraction. It's about power, a little like what you're trying…
Or maybe "...because your smile brightens my day..."
I still feel like "paying for my meal is romantic" and "I sew better than you" have gendered implications. Paying for my meal is NOT "selecting a restaurant that you know I'd be really excited about". I don't understand what part of having people buy you things is supposed to be romantic. anyway, whatever, this couple…
Yeah. All of them seem to be directed at women. Even the guy's cards are about just because he doesn't agree with you doesn't mean it is because you are a woman, when he takes you out calm down it's not because he thinks he owns you, and in general saying women are defensive or overly sensitive.
Actually I think the second sign would say "When I tell you to smile, it's because I freak out a little when you're unhappy and I want to make it stop but I don't know how". No? Just me?
I think I made that exact face.
Yeah, I'm not really feeling it either. Mostly because...like, who is the audience for this? I am a feminist. My partner is a feminist. None of this stuff is anything either of us has ever had to articulate, because duh.