Also specific cities - I think NYC (and even specific areas of NYC) may not be representative of the entire USA.

You have!! ;)

I think that one might be a little skewed? I don't know anyone who has ever been fisted (and I have girl friends who have told me some crazy shit), and I, a woman, have had sex with around 20 guys (LTRs to one night stands) and no one ever tried to fist me. Or brought it up.

I suspect they mean more that "interracial sex" is your fantasy (since, if you peruse random erotica and porn websites, that is a specific 'thing') rather than fantasizing about sex that happens to be interracial.

Thank you. I wanted to respond to that but didn't know how to word it - I think you did this beautifully.

This has been a very educational experience. Thanks, Mark!

Lies! You must not be familiar with Puppetry of the Penis.

So classy, Mark!

That was an intense story. Definitely un-gray worthy.

It's so true! I was thinking the same thing!!

Hahaha I love you.

Yes for sure! I just got distracted by the semantics of it - being less experienced in life and maybe being less self assertive doesn't make a woman a 'girl', and it doesn't make her not an adult. I mean, we trust women of that age to have abortions, vote, hold full time jobs, we don't need to act as if they aren't…

I'm not at all? I literally just said women in their 20s are adults. It was terminology. It was infantalizing. On a mostly-feminist website, you can complain about things like that.

Yeah! I just was squicked out by someone referring to almost an entire decade of mature ages as "girls" and compare them to "fully-fledged women", because apparently people under 30 aren't adults. Unnecessary.

By calling them girls and inferring that they aren't adult women or fully-fledged adults? FWIW, "20-somethings" includes women who are 20 as well as 29. That's a huge range of adult women. I'm not snarking at you, I know what you meant and you had a good point, but we don't need to infantalize people who are…

YES

I agree with you, but women in their 20s are still women (not girls) and also fully-fledged adults. In a different phase of their lives. It sounded pathetic to me, too. But they are adult women who deserve respect, not to be referred to like this.

I knew this would be a Mark Shrayber piece. I just knew it.

Because some people enjoy watching seductive dancing? It's right there in your comment! :)

Yes, it's not universal. I just said the moon is associated with womanhood and had some examples (and I would argue that the menstrual cycle connection is a bit more modern/Western relevant than Mesopotamian mythology). It's not *only* associated with womanhood, but it is a solid connection. Interesting examples…