Great point.

Hey. Don't go face-shaming now.

This is awful, and I'm glad the person who posted this has already been removed by the sorority.

Any indication if that's a civilian, press, police?

Well, being a child molester is not protected, and no one is calling that a sexual orientation. So... maybe it is okay there? Maybe someone shouldn't be fired for the desire without the behaviour? I don't think it should be on par with discrimination against LGBTQ people, but if someone, say, disclosed to a coworker…

These are all really good points! And I'm sorry for the confusion before - I've been in a few different threads, I shouldn't have talked like that without being more clear. I agree with you in part, I think that comparing it to homosexuality muddies the waters a lot, and pointing out gender versus age is important…

Uh, we can, yes, we can technically say whatever we want. I'm not sure what your point is, because I wouldn't say those things about an individual without having some evidence they're actually true, and there is a lot of variance on what causes rape at the individual level.

Okay, I see where our ideas diverge. I don't think that a sexual orientation is defined by the ability to consensually have sex in a way that fulfills said orientation. I think orientation encompasses attraction and desire only, not real-world feasibility, but I can see others wouldn't agree.

To me, the point is focusing on verifiable information, not speculation that can't be proven either way. My heterosexuality might be based on feeling the need for control, I just don't know that - what is the use of talking about that if a) I don't agree, and b) no one else can actually pull apart the facts of my…

Who is this group you are a part of? My psych and crim background somehow taught me the opposite, I'd love to see these studies of yours that prove all pedophiles are sociopaths...

Well, the difference here is you're sharing your personal opinion, while I was trying to bring in what the academic and scientific communities are saying about this. You are fully entitled to your subjective opinion, of course, but that's what I mean by 'that's actually not true' - because that actually is not borne…

Scientists are equating the struggle of pedophiles with homosexuality because of the previous medicalization of homosexuality. And social rejection of such. Not because they are more similar than heterosexuality and pedophilia. And honestly, I have studied this from an academic perspective, and none of what you are…

Actually, none of that is true. On the outside we interpret a desire to be sexual with children as abusive and predatory, because any desire to do something to/with a child is abusive and predatory by our definitions. In reality, those urges do not have to actually be sadistic in nature. NAMBLA (the North American Man…

Actually, like depression and bipolar disorder, the urges and feelings exist on a spectrum. No two people are identical, and some people do not have 'VERY strong' urges. But this article is talking about the ones who desperately need help, so they're probably the ones with the strongest urges to overcome, same as…

Well then, it would also be insulting to hetero people, wouldn't it...? To compare it to a sexuality?

Rebecca, thank you so much for writing this with such grace. I strongly believe (and all of the evidence supports) that the stigma pedophiles face seriously contributes to their likelihood to offend, because it's a huge barrier to treatment. I really appreciate you covering this so intelligently, will be sharing this…

Ahh!!!

Ohmygosh. Investigating!

A lot of people have Facebook friends who don't have their cell numbers. That's for a reason. I don't want my bored cousin in class able to reach me instantly with "heyyyyy what's up" right to my phone, or the kids I used to teach at camp, or my acquaintance coworker, or my friend's mom. There is nothing they have to…

GASP I thought your avatar was a male philosopher BUT STILL, what a horrible assumption to make! I'm so sorry, some feminist I am. MathWoman is infinitely more exciting to me. I would read that comic/watch that movie!