Woah, seriously? And here I was thinking that I could pretty easily just take the list of my actual friends and close relatives and take them to a nice resto-bar and have a fun evening after a private courthouse ceremony! Now I need to spend all this money to keep up with the Joneses!

True story, Anglo-American was what I meant by western, since that's traditionally what we think of when we reference it.

We live in a global society, so it is important to consider originally non-western/Anglo-American traditions, even when we're located in a westernized country. Just my perspective as an anthropologist. Also, as others pointed out, this is also an Italian and Polish tradition, so I'm fairly comfortable saying no dice…

Ah food and venue, I got two of them! If you don't mind me asking, how much was your final cost? I am sort of an unrealistic person re: money, so I wouldn't even know what these things run at (aside from my dress and shoes, which I already have).

Focusing on the phrasing sort of ignores the point, don't you think? To be fair, a decent amount of people are saying that giving money is impersonal and thoughtless. I don't find money an impersonal and thoughtless gift, mostly because I never expect gifts from anyone, so to me anything is nice and thoughtful?

Are there really people who go into debt for their wedding? That just seems insane to me. Where is the money going? Food and venue strike me as the only major costs.

Everyone in the comments saying that giving money is tacky is likely oblivious to all non-western wedding traditions.

That is an excellent idea! He thinks we should live on the Main Line outside of Philly, I was like, shit, I'm not WASPy enough for that...but maybe with the fanciest of juicers I could blend in. Do you think I could get one with the Tory Burch logo on the side?

Yeah, my partner and I don't even live together and we both already have fully stocked kitchens and bathrooms, and his place is filled with (nice, grown up) furniture from when he owned a house. I guess all those generally frivolous kitchen items like a French press and a juicer would be nice though...

Yep, my partner is uncut, we were definitely having sex for two weeks before he mentioned being uncircumcised and I had no idea. Seriously, identical to a circumcised penis when hard, the google image results are very deceptive regarding what an uncircumcised penis looks like.

Oh man, this is a huge issue for me. I'm in MENSA, IQ in the genius range, and everyone always thought I was going to be a wonderkid. Obviously that didn't happen, and while I never wanted to be that person I still feel like I've disappointed everyone who really wanted me to be crazy successful. It doesn't help that I…

Perhaps you would find yourself less frustrated if you stopped checking your texts/email/social media as often. ;) I work as a model currently, and all of my anthropological research is online, so I have to be pretty much available for immediate response via technology, but find I am generally happier when I can put…

Well, I just purchased the Anxiety and Depression Workbook for Dummies. Maybe I can start to fix myself for $7.

Ha oh it's not easy for me at the end, but my partner will grab my face and hold it so we're aligned properly head-wise.

I like a good balance of both, with strong eye contact right near the end.

I would have, had she not immediately deleted the request and blocked me. That's what set me off that it was her (I knew her first name but never inquired as to any other info).

You and me both girl, I am so impatient!

I'm nowhere near an old (and I doubt you are one) and I think about stashing money all the time! I think it comes from dating guys a good bit older than me and a generally fierce need to be an independent adult human.

Ew, a stranger asked what ETHNICITY your friend was? Creepy. Also fuck people who rudely interrupt conversations.

Come be my friend. I'm usually the attractive friend (though I think all my friends are amazing and wonderful and babin') and I hate when randos come up to me and try to flirt. I am out with my ladies for a reason, and it is NOT to look for men.