Same, I always feel like I owe conversation. But how much conversation does $7-12 buy with me?

Only one of them actually told me he was in love with me, three asked me out and whined and cried when shut them down and the fifth just wanted to sleep with me. My partner isn't really bothered by it, since he knows if I wanted to be with anyone else, we wouldn't be together anymore.

Saying "I want to be friends first" still makes it clear that you are looking for romance/sex/love. That is not what this post is talking about.

I didn't actually know somerled (his online handle) was romantically interested in me until he arrived in Philly for our first visit. For that reason I probably would have been happy with just friendship, but I was thrilled to have sparks right off the bat. I would not have been bitter and angry if there wasn't mutual…

Or to be bitter after they bought me a $9 gin and tonic and I decided during conversation that I wasn't attracted. Seriously, I would give the $9 back, I would spend it myself anyway. It's cool.

You pretty much summed up my feelings, the trust is destroyed when I learn there is an ulterior motive for what I thought was a genuine friendship.

I have to agree with this. It's not like I've never had male friends that I would bone if the stars aligned, but that's not the reason I am or was friends with them. I share many things with my friends, from interests to the industry we work in to just things like someone to eat Chinese takeaway with.

Would you advise someone to attempt to ask out/hook up with a woman who says she is in a committed, monogamous relationship?

Okay, so you can apply your rhetoric to yourself. Just because you think one way, doesn't mean everyone else does. My partner and I were not friends before we started dating, we briefly spoke from time to time on Twitter and Facebook and one weekend he decided to come visit me. We slept together that very first night…

Maybe we both just appear vulnerable or something? Luckily at least with men who approach me in public the human wisdom tooth I wear around my neck and an ability to ramble about bones or sweaters for chihuahuas keeps them at bay.

Sometimes I feel this way. I do have some heterosexual male friends that are actually just platonic, so I haven't given up on it yet.

Considering I was (and am!) in a relationship with an amazing man that I love, I don't really see how they could have mistaken anything I said or did.

Thank you! I try to just be honest but realize it often comes off as snooty instead of just my realization that beauty ideals exist and I am a combination of genetics that matches them. A social theory class I took in my undergrad really shaped my perspective about the beauty industry, structuralism and individualism…

Well, I wouldn't date someone who didn't actively consider a future with me, but lots of people just date for fun. Also, I am friends with many people that I have no interest in dating or fucking. Friendship has nothing to do with romantic or sexual attraction, if that were the case I would be friends with only my…

I'm almost a little embarrassed to admit that sometimes I see items in fashion mags and buy them. It's really, really rare and usually something I save up for, but sometimes I do need to have that designer one piece swimsuit or those amazing shoes. Rare, but it happens.

Actually, my partner and I met online and consider ourselves to have started dating from the first time we met in person. In any other scenario, if someone is physically attracted to another person, going on a date is a great way to determine personality attraction as well while also indicating romantic or sexual…

I'm a professional fashion model (I am also working through post-bac/grad school for medical anthropology) so I am never surprised necessarily when I'm approached in public. There is no other way for me to say that without it sounding snooty, so I apologize if it did. But, when I've extended my trust to someone who…

Ha, well, I didn't want to be harsh about it, but you are most likely correct. It was disappointing to me that I extended my trust to people that only thought of me as a goal or conquest.

Ugh, I completely agree with you. Unfortunately, cross my heart hope to die, many of the really famous fashion industry photographers do the same sort of shit to models, their behavior is just kept much more under wraps. Makes me glad I will never achieve top level fame in the industry, I'll stay relatively unknown,…

Unfortunately, a few of them got whiny and nasty when I didn't return the feelings, so I chose to end those friendships. One of them I still work with professionally (he just wanted to sleep with me, not date me), and we were able to move past it, and the one that told me he was in love with me is in Germany so we…