This is so good and so helpful. Damn. Thank you!

Ugh, I’m sorry you had to deal with this, too!

I have been down that path and he for sure does not have a partner - or if he does, he is the most brazen cheater on the planet. He’s got profiles on OkCupid, Tinder and Bumble listing him as single with a bunch of face photos, he’s super affectionate when we go out in his neighborhood and there are no signs of a…

Thanks!

Is Patti’s book actually good? She kind of terrifies me (and she hates my people aka redheads).

Dating whining:

The youngest was 38. The oldest was 52.

There’s something about him that makes him seem like he’d have terrible breath but never think about it and also probably be a close talker.

Ahhhh this reminds me of so many dudes I have dated/gone on dates with. I had a streak of dates where men who knew my age going in would tell me that they thought I was pretty enough to sleep with, but too old to date because it’s embarrassing to be dating a 35 year old. Fave line out of all of them: “if I could put…

Over the last couple of months, I had some very.....interesting? conversations with two highly educated white men in their 60s about this administration’s attitude toward Planned Parenthood and abortion.

You’d think a man who fought so hard against sexual norms - or, really, those that threatened to stand in the way of his making money - and was known for having multiple partners at once would have long ago abandoned the idea of a “one true love”. And yet....

Last week I saw a headline about this guy and thought it was going to be about someone with objectophilia. But no, it’s just another tantrum turned lawsuit about marriage equality.

Blinking twice (thankfully!). I’ve had nothing but really positive experiences with ACLU folks both at national and at various state offices.

It is. And the pro-bono world, too. All of the organizing groups I’m involved with are about 80-85% female. I recently did a week of pro-bono immigration service and every single volunteer was female. It’s why we are only 21% of partners at firms and dominate in regard to lower earning attorneys. We’re either a)…

I don’t know how *all* of us haven’t. From talking with other women who are friends/acquaintances, if gross (or, as is put in the OP, evil) dudes in progressive spaces or who claim progressive values comes up, everybody has a story or five, especially trans women/women of color.

Can we stop acting like straight/cis “feminist” men or “progressive” men or dudes who voted for Hillary aren’t able to be just as oppressive/misogynist/violent as their Republican counterparts?

Did you hear the arguments from the original panel on Hivey? He asked counsel for Ivy Tech what the cause of lesbianism is. Counsel answered that according to the medical community it’s an immutable characteristic and Bauer jumped in to say: “it’s not just ugly men?”. Real comedy show they’ve got going on over…

One more note: I just started digging into the opinion and it’s worded in a way that it could easily be applied to cases of gender identity based discrimination. It effectively undoes the decision in Ulane, which is what arguments that Title VII does not afford trans plaintiffs protection rely on.

The court can only rule on the case in front of them, and the appellant in this case is cisgender.

I haven’t read through the opinion yet but just from scanning through it, it looks like Posner’s concurring opinion is....Posner-y. He describes LGBT folks as “normal in all the ways that count”.