This is so good and so helpful. Damn. Thank you!

Ugh, I’m sorry you had to deal with this, too!

I have been down that path and he for sure does not have a partner - or if he does, he is the most brazen cheater on the planet. He’s got profiles on OkCupid, Tinder and Bumble listing him as single with a bunch of face photos, he’s super affectionate when we go out in his neighborhood and there are no signs of a…

Thanks!

Is Patti’s book actually good? She kind of terrifies me (and she hates my people aka redheads).

Dating whining:

The youngest was 38. The oldest was 52.

There’s something about him that makes him seem like he’d have terrible breath but never think about it and also probably be a close talker.

Ahhhh this reminds me of so many dudes I have dated/gone on dates with. I had a streak of dates where men who knew my age going in would tell me that they thought I was pretty enough to sleep with, but too old to date because it’s embarrassing to be dating a 35 year old. Fave line out of all of them: “if I could put…

Over the last couple of months, I had some very.....interesting? conversations with two highly educated white men in their 60s about this administration’s attitude toward Planned Parenthood and abortion.

You’d think a man who fought so hard against sexual norms - or, really, those that threatened to stand in the way of his making money - and was known for having multiple partners at once would have long ago abandoned the idea of a “one true love”. And yet....

Last week I saw a headline about this guy and thought it was going to be about someone with objectophilia. But no, it’s just another tantrum turned lawsuit about marriage equality.

Blinking twice (thankfully!). I’ve had nothing but really positive experiences with ACLU folks both at national and at various state offices.

It is. And the pro-bono world, too. All of the organizing groups I’m involved with are about 80-85% female. I recently did a week of pro-bono immigration service and every single volunteer was female. It’s why we are only 21% of partners at firms and dominate in regard to lower earning attorneys. We’re either a)…

It’s awesome that a few women who worked for Pence were able to get around he and Mother’s rules. There is no way to know how many women may have lost positions to men because they were up for roles that would require one on one meetings.

I’m confused. She thanked him for putting his wife’s name in....was that supposed to be some sort of clever cover up? Like if her husband saw it he would just think the text got sent to the wrong number or something?

I don’t know how *all* of us haven’t. From talking with other women who are friends/acquaintances, if gross (or, as is put in the OP, evil) dudes in progressive spaces or who claim progressive values comes up, everybody has a story or five, especially trans women/women of color.

Refusing to have a meal with a woman alone is a “boundary” that impedes women’s professional success. It’s deserving of ridicule because it is a convenient excuse for Pence, and men like Pence, not to hire or work with women in positions that could lead to them sitting at a table alone together. It plays on the idea…

Can we stop acting like straight/cis “feminist” men or “progressive” men or dudes who voted for Hillary aren’t able to be just as oppressive/misogynist/violent as their Republican counterparts?

Did you hear the arguments from the original panel on Hivey? He asked counsel for Ivy Tech what the cause of lesbianism is. Counsel answered that according to the medical community it’s an immutable characteristic and Bauer jumped in to say: “it’s not just ugly men?”. Real comedy show they’ve got going on over…