He should tell her that she has a choice. Continue doing porn or continue staying married. She can make the choice and she can live with the consequences.

The red flag is claiming the wife here has “Narcissism” which is code word for “I’m threatened.”

You live in make-believe world.

Fine. I guess I’ll just fucking shut up and let your anger circle-jerk complete course.

When I see a lot of younger dudes on the internet who are also clearly having trouble navigating how to express themselves romantically or finding healthy outlets for their sex drives I mostly just see them struggling to make sense of the many confusing, mixed messages they’re being given by the culture around them…

I couldn’t say it better.

most these guys have a different account in their heads about what happened

The condescension here is amazing.

I’m having trouble with this,

The truth is that among the older set being a “gamer” was a pretty male-dominated hobby. Pure numbers. It is way more equal in distribution among people around your age.

Not every has the same kind of socially/internalized construction of sex outside of monogamous relationships. Some people are much more bothered by unfaithfulness than others. For some, it represents something to be repaired. For others, it is the ultimate betrayal.

Maybe if someone is sooo good at “faking” being a jerk, it’s because they actually are one.

“An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.”

I wouldn’t do that and neither would you.

As an addict and a victim, anger and zero-sum negativity are my greatest personal enemies. The only way to my recovery from all of this is to regain a source of faith in the world being imperfect-but-trying. We have have shame in our histories, and the older one gets the more it builds up. We make mistakes and act…

Thank you for sharing <3

Frankly, you are making this about yourself in a way that is inappropriate.

I think this is deeply personal for me. A lack of ability to forgive is a tenet of the relationship I am in now, which I and my therapist both consider abusive.

This is a great comment and you should get all the stars!

Not to make this more than a small experiential footnote...