I’ll have to look for the Salad Supreme.

I love doing yoga by myself. I absolutely hate doing it in groups. It’s a personal meditation to me, and sitting in a room with a bunch of people is a nightmare. And the one time I went to hot yoga (before all the shit about Choudhry) with a friend, it was a literal hell. I had an anxiety attack because it was too…

It’s going to sound ridiculous, but I was feeling pretty depressed before I read this comment (and ate a piece of toast - self-care works). I feel better now, and it’s not just the toast. Life is meaningless, unless *I* give it meaning, and that’s hard, but far less disappointing than giving it to someone else.…

I’ve seen it over and over again in classrooms of all sorts, including the 6th grade. The teacher is a jerk but is funny, cool, or something that makes their rare praise highly sought after and desired.

P.S. I still practice. From old DVDs (hate the streaming fitness video trend), books, or just deciding what poses to do as I go. Yoga good, abusive gurus bad.

For a long time I had a hard time understanding this dynamic. I loved my yoga teacher, but her meditative readings from “The Secret” didn’t really make me feel like I was absorbing wisdom.

I learned yoga from books and videos as a brokeass, stressed out student in the late 90s/early 00s. I wanted desperately to attend those expensive weeks-long workshops I saw advertised in Yoga Journal (which I read at the library) and be part of an ashram, etc. but I couldn’t even afford local classes.

I have watched an episode or two of this, actually, and I liked it!

You sound uncannily like someone who slept with a married man because he told you how difficult his wife was. Yeah, I stopped sleeping with my husband after he gave me HPV, which required a painful procedure to get rid of. (Although he feigned innocence and injured feelings that I could accuse him of cheating — he…

“Have you considered telling your dad how disorienting this has been for you? Having a conversation about what this might mean for your relationship? Yelling at him for a bit about what a loathsome shit he’s been to your mom?”

I really am enjoying Alone on the History Channel. Ten people are dropped off near each other in a remote area, but they will not see or communicate with anyone for the unknown duration of the season. They must find food and water, build a fire, and create a safe shelter, all while filming themselves. They have a…

I know three middle aged women, who are battling cervical cancer because their husband cheated, infected them with HPV and they had no idea they had been infected until the cancer arrived. So cheating isn’t just a moral issue at that point. Criminal, in every sense of the word. If you cheat, you are an ass- If your…

Almost as bad as when people refer to Dad’s taking care of the kids as babysitting. It’s not babysitting when you’re the parent! It’s taking care of your own offspring!

My first thought when I read this was - the only reason he did these things was because he had a guilty conscience. I highly doubt he did laundry of his own free will or made her breakfast just because, considering he was dicking down some other woman during the time he was doing these “loving” things for his wife.

Maybe your mom was so hard to love because you’re dad was off dicking around with other women? Women usually have a sixth sense about these things. She may have suspected that he was a cheater but didn’t confront him because: ignorance can be bliss, she wanted to keep her family intact, she didn’t want her kids…

Yep. That she thinks of “what a rational adult does as a matter of course” as “pampering” says a lot. It’s not pampering to do your fair share of household chores.

I find it telling that the LW’s last paragraph is all about her fears that if she doesn’t continue her relationship with her dad he’ll start drinking or self-harming. That says volumes about what she was raised to believe was her responsibility. 

It is extremely upsetting to find out your parents are people, with so many flaws. It’s worse when they do something that doesn’t jive with your personal ethics, which they helped shape.

But in a way I feel especially bad for those who still hold on to an idealized version of their parents well into adulthood

This is sad - in their letter, the writer says they assumed a divorce would be their father leaving because of poor treatment on the part of their mother and that he was an attentive and loving partner. I’ve been the one who gives and gives and gets nothing back. It’s exhausting and dehumanizing. And yes, he could…