Last week one of the girls from Teen Mom made headlines when she had her hair styled into dreadlocks. As soon as there was an outcry that this was cultural appropriation the masses of the internet came out to say there’s no such thing as cultural appropriation/ she was just admiring black culture/ PC culture has…

Hank is the big Bernese and Bill is the little Pomeranian. My last Pom’s name was Steve and I just love the serious man names for these fluffy little dogs!

Thank you! Your daughter is absolutely adorable too! I swear there must be a gene that shows up more in girls that makes them programmed to gravitate to the color pink no matter how hard as parents we try to avoid the societal “pinkwashing” haha.

I’ve been wondering if it was a school thing but she’s only in her second year of 2 1/2 hour preschool (and last year she only went 2 days a week) and I know that her best friend is pretty girly, but is not nearly as concerned about her appearance as my daughter. In fact I’ve had other moms come up to me and say that…

I can only dream my daughter will be the one to start up a feminist club!!!

Haha she was “fixing” it because my husband was in the garage fixing the Jeep that he’s rebuilding for me. She also has a Camaro that she helped my husband soup up (it’s totally out of control!!!) but it needs a new motor right now so she’s been using the Jeep. She went outside while my husband was in the garage and…

That’s so funny because I was the exact opposite! I was more of a tomboy and if I needed to have a dress and my hair curled for special occasion it would be WWIII between my mom and I. She would physically hold me down to get a dress on me, haha!

I love the sound of that, I will definitely look it up!

Ok that is the CUTEST thing I have ever seen! I am just dying at the little clip on earring. It’s really good to hear this is an issue that little boys go through too sometimes. I guess when I think about it though there’s a little boy in my daughters preschool class that HAS to wear a tie every day. I would say that…

Excellent! I will definitely get those for her. And one of the suggests was for one of her favorite books- Rosie Revere, Engineer. These will be perfect!

What books do you recommend? And man I remember doing the artwork ripping thing too. I was always a super duper perfectionist when it came to school. I will definitely have to get her tested at some point.

She’s in her second year of preschool and I think her best friend (who was born the girliest girl ever) has influenced her a little bit, but I think that influence only means something because of who my daughter is as a person.

Wow, we do sound a lot alike! I try and just support what she wants. When she was 2 it was shirts with cars and trucks on them, today it’s special occasion dresses. I’ve never told her that certain clothes are for boys and certain clothes are for girls- in fact we have argued about boys being able to wear dresses…

Oh wow I never thought about that being a sign of perfectionism. She is DEFINITELY a perfectionist! I was volunteering at her preschool last year and the teacher let me do the same drawing activity that she did. When she saw that my drawing was better than hers (uh, because I’m a 27 year old adult) she FLIPPED out,…

“The more I watch my kids growing up, more convinced I am that there’s much more nature, and much less nurture at work than I ever thought”

Wow those are really good to hear. My daughter freaks out over the “not being beautiful” thing and it just instantly sends me into high alert. It definitely still blows my mind that my little girl who would only wear “vroom vroom” shirts will now only wear formal dresses!

I appreciate your perspective! I think it’s worrying too and I think we need to see a marriage counselor. It doesn’t help that like every other mom I constantly think “omg am I messing my kid up?!?!” and my husband just reinforces that.

Haha oh my gosh you are so right!

I think the dress thing could definitely be a phase, I just hope the being critical of her appearance is too. I suppose I didn’t delve into it as much in my original post but she’ll cry and say that she wishes she could be as pretty as I am because I get to wear makeup, and she constantly says she’s “gross” and not…

Oh man we went through the long sleeves only thing two summers ago- and it’s usually 90 to 100 degrees here! The end of that was me taking all of her long sleeve shirts and hiding them, hahaha!