Some chick who happens to be famous is going through a late “bad boy” phase and it’s supposed to be indicative of...something??

From the other side of Gayville, I second that emotion.  I don’t have enough in the tank emotionally, today, to even consider the skid-marks involved with either of them..

I’m really confused about what the author is trying to communicate. It sorta seems like a circumspect defense of traditional masculinity/femininity, patriarchal domination and trapping oneself in a bad relationship because superficial physical and social qualities are precedent over anything else.

I suppose I ask this question with regularity, but I will ask again: Are the straights ok?

InThe Atlantic article about the end of men, this was a topic that was brought up over and over and over again. A lot of women founded a lot easier to be a single mother than it was to find a partner to settle down with and have an equal relationship. I used to lament single motherhood, and now I totally get it and…

You are totally correct about being a woman and dating in your 30s. Yes, I wanted marriage and kids, and a lot of men my age were freaked out by both prospects. At the same time, I was starting to encounter men in their early to mid-40s who were totally freaked out and had hit marriage o'clock. and they had no…

I hear you! As someone who is solidly in her thirties now, single, and with the hopes of one day having children, the angst definitely creeps in.

Yes. A cost and a risk. I’m leaving a business-with-friend-elements relationship right now, and while I wish I could say it’s a 100% best possible decision, there are risks and costs for me and the other party coming with me. That’s been one of the hardest things to come to terms with as an adult, that there are no…

I can’t stress Brandy’s “this person is not your weighted blanket” enough.

Everyone gets to mourn the relationship they intended to have

I get the sense that Sick for Love isn’t allowing herself to mourn because of guilt. The more she denies herself the right to feel those feelings, the longer the mourning will last. Let it out girl! 

A useful way of looking at dilemmas like this is realizing that the other person also deserves the same unconditional love and happiness you feel you’re lacking, and if you’re not the person to give it to them, it’s better in the long run for both of you to move on. “Living a lie” is absolutely a thing, and not a good…

We tend believe that a break up always has a dumper and a dumpee, and that the dumpee gets to be hurt and sad but the dumper is supposed to be happy or something. But that’s silly. Everyone gets to mourn the relationship they intended to have, that they thought would be their forever. You get to be sad about the…

I dumped someone like this—a really excellent friend. Someone I could see building a life with. Someone I didn’t think I’d ever really love. I somewhat regretted it off and on for years. We kept in touch for a few years, but his hurt would come out in late-night conversations. We, unfortunately, were not able to make…

While we’re at it, it should be noted that if you have covid you should just... stop having that.

You answered your own question - because they’ve never had real jobs. Since they’ve never really worked or struggled, they have no clue what it’s like. They COULD STFU and listen to people who have worked and struggled, but that would take effort and an open mind. 

I’v been out of work since April, can’t imagine why I didn’t think of that! DUH!

Thanks Vanks! no one would have thought of that without you!

Ivanka Trump is the physical manifestation of “the unexamined life is not worth living.”

Ghislaine