Can we get a measurement system that is based on: do not hit my cervix. Because REALLY, do not hit my cervix.

The specially designed tape, which measures circumference and not length, will be handed out free of charge at the clinic from Tuesday.

I’m no fan of the Lakers, but that is a good response...

Roses are red

No, there’s pretty much something wrong with that. If I were fantasizing about murdering people, though not actually murdering people, that would be a very clear sign that I needed help, and possibly that other people needed protection from me.

Nah, some kinks absolutely deserve to be shamed and that ridiculous “sex postive” attitude of all sex is great all the time thing needs to go.

Nope. Some kinks should be shamed. Pedophilia? Animal crushing?

kink shaming is not okay

These weren't kink videos though. They were your run of the mill scenes. I think that's where they were playing at.

The people criticizing you are self congratulatory, libfem idiots. They are so ideologically confused that they think in order to be a feminist you have to endorse porn that sells rape fantasies to men. You’re obviously not being sex negative. You’re being rape negative and rape culture negative. Why the fuck wouldn’t…

Every movie I've seen him in (ugh I watch waaaay too much porn I guess) he is super degrading towards the women he is with. I don't really enjoy his movies that much honestly.

Please remember that kink shaming is not okay

Having a problem with porn that exists to satisfy men’s rape fantasies doesn’t make you sex negative, any more than you being okay with it makes you the enlightened feminist scholar you think it does.

Hey, how about not trotting out “sex-negative” in a post where someone in BDSM raped a woman despite her use of safewords, huh? Maybe realize that “sex-negative” is the new way to say “frigid” and stop using it, because the idea that we can’t discuss how damaging certain aspects of sex can be to women is horseshit.

Honestly, I just really don’t give a shit about men in this regard, not anymore. My concern is with the welfare of women, and how these things effect the individual women involved AND how they contribute to a climate of violence towards all women. I’ve seen too many men exploit and abuse the idea of kink-shaming and…

Please remember that a lot of rape cases happen in the BDSM community, and lots of men get away scott free because they claim it was consensual and part of role play. We have seen that play out in the news multiple times. It’s a touchy subject, but we can’t ignore hard truths.

There’s nothing un-feminist about rape fantasies and I’m totally pro-kink, but I have trouble endorsing them as positive sexual outlets when they’re from the point of view of the rapist. Most porn is shot for men, marketed to men, including the videos to which I’m referring.

I was with you until the last bit. That is such a horrible, massive generalization that has no bit of merit to it.

And that would be applicable if I were talking about videos simulating consensual BDSM. I’m an advocate for sex positivity and have several amateur kink and pro domme friends; I am able to make the distinction.

Well, this’ll be extra hard for some of those “that guy can’t be a rapist, he doesn’t *need* to rape!” people to wrap their brains around.