She manages to look gorgeous even when legitimately distressed. I hate her for that. I love her for that.

But the even was a men's only gym chain! I think it was called Cuts, created by the same people who made Curves. Nobody made a stink about it being discriminatory, but it failed because of a lack of interest from men. Which actually tells you a lot, especially as Curves is thriving.

I'm pretty sure you just won the internet. Well done.

And if you want something to bitch about that affects men, here's some suggestions:

Yup. Too many reasons, including this one: overheard by my boyfriend in the male locker rooms of his gym, some men discussing a young female gym-goer who was wearing fitness leggings (I repeat, fitness leggings).

"Did you see that girl? She was asking to be raped."

Men-only spaces, destroyed? What, like the government, universities, militaries, bars, offices of any profession except teaching school... the world, basically? We're destroying the world by wanting to be in it and not just stay locked up at home? You need the whole world to yourselves?

You know that isn't true. Boy Scouts? All boys private schools? C'mon now.

Because you're too much of an obtuse numbskull to acknowledge the actual reasons for these spaces, let me give you one you can understand: Real men don't need men's only spaces, broseph.

Bingo. This isn't a case of those in power painting those without power with a broad brush. This is a case of those in power recklessly abusing their power.

"The scary thing is how well predators can hide themselves amongst men."

Nope.

OK, since I'm already getting my inbox flooded elsewhere, why not double the fun? (Note: feel free to ignore this, I'm venting because I'm in a shitty mood.)

I wish I could remember where I saw it but someone on Twitter put it as (paraphrasing) "Imagine one in 20 m&ms are deadly toxic and will kill you instantly if ingested. Now someone gives you a bowl and tells you to eat a handful. You say no way, that could kill you. But not all m&ms are poisonous! they say."

Nice one, Madeleine. I'm most angry about the men who have had some experience with domestic violence or sexual harassment — and instead of being sympathetic to the women who are finally talking about having gone through the same thing only often a thousand times worse , every day of their lives, are using that…

I really hate the "not all men" argument. I am a man and I don't like generalizations, but to focus on that generalization when people are talking about what just "some" (far too many) men do is nothing more than a straw man.

Ugh, that is disgusting and absolutely is the kind of casual jokey misogyny that is fucking everywhere in our culture.

And if I buy into the just world fallacy nothing bad will ever happen to me!

This is how I put it to my male officemates last year, when a member of the custodial staff had started making a habit of cornering female grad students who were working late/alone. "He's harmless! Have you ever talked to him? He's a funny guy!"

I was talking to my father once about the whole idea that women can protect themselves by doing X, Y and Z, and specifically how dumb the "wearing revealing clothing is dangerous" concept is. He didn't get it, and didn't get it, and didn't get it, until I asked "Dad, if I were raped while wearing a short skirt, would…

I'm also angry for the many girls and women for whom the risk isn't out on a late night walk, but right in their very homes. Something about the place that should be the safest actually holding the most danger is just so cruel, and so very damaging.