Look, people can eat at whatever speed they eat - but the whole table should be on the same course at the same time. If one person is still eating a main course and the server clears everyone else’s plates and starts taking dessert orders, that’s rude and makes the slower eater feel rushed. Besides, it should make the…

I just said in another comment - I can be walking along a busy street in a crowd of people, and I can detect the one random person wearing XS by Paco Rabanne, because it floods me with memories of my high school boyfriend. That was 20 years ago (haven’t seen or spoken to him in 20 years, even) and it remains an…

You just named so many perfumes that I’ve loved over the years, and brought back so many memories for me... I totally went for Navy and Sunflowers, once upon a time, and Gap Dream (and Grass) and Happy, and I have been devoted to Jo Malone for the last many years. Makes me feel like I should check out the Elizabeth &…

Starred because of the sheer impressiveness of it all.

Where’s the Jo Malone love on here?

You get all the points in the world because you, too, hate Angel. I thought I was the only one. I can smell it a mile away and it makes me gag. The worst is when I get on an elevator when someone who was wearing Angel was just on that elevator. The WORST. I know people say it smells different on everyone, but then why…

Sure thing. You know what I also realized? If we hadn’t done engagement photos, no way in hell would we have had professional photos taken of us ever, so it was sort of the perfect excuse to do that... which actually leads me to something you left off your list, though it’s not really wedding or event related - which…

Agree with all of this except for two of them:
- Save the Date. Helpful for planning purposes because travel is usually involved.
- Engagement Photos. I don’t need to post them everywhere or put them on things for other people, but we did these and I really liked them for two reasons: 1) the photographer is probably the…

Seeing how Sweet Briar’s alumnae have come together to accomplish this has been amazing, and I applaud you all and wish you all the best for the road ahead, as I’m sure it won’t be easy. As an alumna of another women’s college, you’re making us all proud. Congratulations!!!

Of course. And just so you know, this is not silly or selfish or anything like that at all, and it is not weird or unusual or horrible that you might need support. You’re providing an amazing amount of support for your family, and you sound like an incredibly kind person - just working to care for people can be…

I know I’m late to this conversation, but I just wanted to add one more voice from someone who absolutely hears you and can relate to caretaking and also to being sick, although in different ways. A couple of thoughts: you’ve mentioned a couple of times on this thread that it feels good, and important, to talk this…

Thank you so much. I may take you up on that at some point!

Thank you so much, too. The distance is presenting a bit of a logistical challenge at the moment (won’t go into too much detail here, but recently moved and it’s been a liiiiittle difficult to keep the distance appropriate lately), but hopefully that will resolve soon enough. And you’re so right to look out for those…

Thank you so much. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Even my husband doesn’t seem to get how overwhelming it is to be surrounded by the “All Engagement, All The Time” machine (he’s not around my family nearly as much - he’s away a lot lately because of his work) and he’s of the “get over it” mentality…

Check out the books by Deborah Roffman. She’s an incredibly awesome sex educator and, while I think her books may be geared more toward being helpful for you to talk to your daughter (rather than things just to hand to her and be done with it), they might be really helpful.

ETA: was cheaper than the dress we were trying to re-create, but was NOT cheap, by any stretch of the imagination, and it was a total disaster. Some people have wonderful luck with this method but I was sadly not one of them. Just wanted to clarify that we were not going to be getting this dress inexpensively by going…

Hang on, hang on, hang on. Forgetting all the rest of it for a minute - what is beer with clam??? I’ve never heard of this before but it sounds like magic.

Agree with what you said, but a star for “Jesus F. Popcorn.” Made me giggle out loud, and I have really been needing to giggle out loud. That is awesome.

Yeah, I see both sides here.

Feeling similarly. My bridal showers made me massively uncomfortable (yes, that was showerS, plural; no, I didn’t want a shower at all, and yes, that was a fight that I lost). I’m Jewish and I don’t have a single Jewish friend who has had a baby shower. The only Jewish people I know who have had showers have been my…