I didn’t mean it as a safety tip. Half of all women homicide victims are killed by husbands or boyfriends. My point is you’re no safer being married or coupled and monogamous than you are if you’re single and a sex worker. The issue is male violence, not women’s sexual choices. The only real safety tip out there is…

And especially if you’re not single. Women are way more likely to be assaulted or killed by a husband or boyfriend than by any stranger, one night stand, or client.

I’ve had the same thought about budget corner-cutting this season. Truth is we’re extremely lucky we’re getting a fourth season at all. Ratings have dropped every single season. My guess is the CW gave them a really tight budget this year and Aline is cutting every penny of production they don’t need to tell the story…

Thank you for saying this. I strongly want to live in a world where we protect all children from abuse. Policing and judging the consensual sex fantasies of adults will not get us any closer to that world.

Most of the more recent research says that singles are on average as happy or happier than marrieds — men and women. Because marriage is worse for women, women are usually the ones dumping their husbands instead of the reverse. So its a catch-22. Getting dumped is more emotionally devastating than doing the dumping. 

Let me just say I love your screename.  Worth a star in itself -- there you go.  

All right, I’m not going to explain to you how people saying that women are inferior to men hurts women. You can google that. Rather than make me keep guessing, why don’t you just come out and tell me what exactly was your point in responding to my original post about whether sex doll-fucking is a problem? I’ve been…

Because sexism hurts women, duh. What are we in jezebel kindergarten here? So you think men fucking plastic toys is sexist. Well you’re entitled to your opinion even though it’s wrong and silly. Sure, men are born disgusting pigs. Best to just let them roll around in their own filth and only worry about not letting…

If I misunderstood you it wasn’t deliberate. If a commercial is sexist then someone is saying sexist stuff and they should be criticized. Now let me ask you a question. What does men jerking off to sex dolls have to do with sexism? If we stop the men from doing that, will they become less sexist? I doubt it. Just so…

no man in the world supports in that. The ones that say they do are lying to get into your pants.

And we’re allowed to be dissapointed in you for having that opinion.

It’s always disturbing when men treat women like objects without their consent, with crass comments at work, unwelcome treatment romantically, or what have you. It’s not so disturbing that men have weird sex fantasies involving dominance / master themes. Some women have those fantasies too. The only concern is…

Worth discussing and exploring for sure. Like, if men say “I like fucking this doll, therefore we should make all actual women into dolls,” that’s really bad. But if men say “I support gender equality and women’s freedom, and I also like fucking this doll because I have a weird kink,” then there’s nothing to worry…

There’s fantasy and there’s reality. We’re all opposed to men trying to make actual women more quiet, docile, and doll-like with laws and oppression. I’m not opposed to men having sex fantasies about submissive feminine women. Let them enjoy their weird fantasies, just as long as they don’t cross over into reality.…

I personally hear girls making sexual comments or jokes about boys daily, but that's just cause I'm on twitter. 

You’re right. It’s fine for Lily to hire sex workers because she wanted to cheer herself up while she was feeling down, and it’s also fine for her to hire sex workers because she wanted a professional to give her sexual pleasure. Both are perfectly acceptable. I love and support you either way Lily!  

True. Hey who knows, maybe she’ll decide to just stay single. Lots of women doing it nowadays.  

Perhaps next time she can avoid any sexual exclusivity promises with her new boyfriend. But yeah, life goes on. 

The reason the marriage / cohab rates have been declining for decades in the West is because it’s possible for women to do so much of life single now, including raising kids. Coupling will always work well for some people for some portion of their lives, but the days of it being a need to have a 30 year partner are…

Yeah, I get that. I guess I go beyond the poly critique to questioning the value of primary partners altogether. Your point — which I agree is accurate — is that people stress about sexual fidelity because they have so much riding on their sexual partnership relationship beyond sex but also including merged finances,…