also: DO THEY NOT WATCH TELEVISION? It's always a cop! Always! Teens don't want to have sex with you! They're too busy having sex with other teens. Geesh.

I'm so glad I didn't go that route, to be honest. The clearance process is such a headache. But to know that this shitfuck got one and they gave me a hard time? UGH.

I have worked in the federal contracting industry and the stories I've heard from security people are really dismaying. A lot of government employees and contractors have been either denied a clearance or lost it when up for a polygraph (required periodically for some agencies) because of child porn or other…

Seriously, this dumbass got a clearance (I assume TS) and it took me extra long time because of one of my estranged parents being from a furren country?

Actually, it's more to do with the fact that women bear children, are usually the primary caregiver, and are often left by the fathers.

Once, at a company where I was the only woman, I got in the habit of making the 1st pot of coffee because I was always the first one in. The CPO said to me one day, 'I'm glad you make the coffee, it tastes better when a woman makes it.' I bought my coffee on the way in from then on and never brewed another pot.

As someone who was in a 20+ year marriage and is now getting a divorce, my experience is men deliberately do "women's" (cough) work badly to get out of doing it or ever being asked (and don't forget the chance to be self-righteously angry if anyone dares complain about how they did it). Most of these tasks are not…

The only time I would ever date a still married person is if the divorce papers had already been served but things just weren't finalized by the courts yet. I could live with that.

this is more about dating a married man than meeting someone on craigslist, but i think you'll like it. now i HATE it when women{or men for that matter}date married people. the only time i ever did, i was 18, naive as hell, and of course didn't know. well, he was going to take me to a concert and i get a call…

You have a good point. It unfortunately puts the burden for resolving things in the end on the person suffering from inequality. But we might put it this way: It should be white people who show responsibility to overcome racism - after all in a sense it is a white problem not a black one. It is white people who could…

"I hear a lot of my fellow white people talk about how they don't feel "comfortable" talking about race, and their fear of saying "the wrong thing." I share that discomfort and fear."

Some POC will tell you that white allyship is not needed, but it is. If we want society to progress, members of the majority and minority have to work together to get towards that point. The first and most important rule to being a good ally is to listen. Listen and pay attention to what POC are saying and understand…

Your assumption here is a problem. You assume that the commenter is looking for a prize. They aren't. They are saying they don't need to apologize for sympathy and empathy which is offered without reward to all walks of life. That the automatic assumption (on your part, it would seem) that they are saying these…

This is a great piece. One thing I will say, in my experience has someone who is half white and half brown, is that the same system that keeps people of color "in their place" after all of these years is the same one that blinds a lot of white people who mean well. Is this an excuse for their behavior? No, maybe not,…

Bennett is the perfect guys name. It just brings up lovely romantic swoon worthy men.

I have 20 years on you and have come to the opposite conclusion. There's a real quiet, lovely satisfaction in knowing you are a good person who won't lie, cheat, steal or screw others over, and who, in fact, goes out of one's way to be kind and helpful. I see myself as creating the world I live in. Not all of it - I'm…

I don't know who "Madelaine Davies" is, but she sounds dangerous.

Bill Cosby is a good example of the "rapists are normal people, not obvious monsters" thing. As long as we continue to believe all rapists come off as inherently creepy people will still disbelieve survivors, no matter how credible their stories.

I don't find it possible.

Props to Hannibal Buress (who is just fantastic on Broad City). Ever since I read about the rape allegations about Cosby, who has been widely known as a skirtchaser since forever, I can't bring myself to watch The Cosby Show or listen to his standup. I unapologetically cannot divorce those stories from his work.