“You look at everything all over the world today and how women are dressing and what they are asking by just presenting themselves the way they do. What are they asking for? Trouble.”

Wow. That’s disgusting. Thankfully other designers make beautiful wrap dresses so I don’t have to worry about giving up a favorite designer.

I had to break with my cousin. The two of us were very close. We were born just a few hours apart and were both the artsy, “smart” ones in the family. I am his daughter’s godmother. His half Hispanic daughter because his wife is Mexican. I guess shes “one of the good ones.”

I think that’s an understatement.

Yeah. Long, sad, devastating story. It’s been 7 years and I’m still not even close to knowing how to manage the sorrow.

Wait, what? That’s horrible.

I think Hilary is an unfortunate mix of old and new school, in the worst possible way, and it’s really not at all her fault. She was fighting an uphill battle the whole way. She got her initial public recognition in a supportive role; it’s gonna be tough for anyone to fight that kind of typecasting (for lack of a…

Yep. Lost most of my family when I protected my son after he disclosed sexual impropriety by a family member. He was 10. I lost so many of them in one fell swoops. It’s awful.

Yes, it does. What I was taught growing up is that courage isn’t a quality you’re born with, it’s one you develop.

First of all, being gay is not a “lifestyle choice.” Keep up Sharon, the bigots have moved on from that phrase since the 90s.

I don’t consider losing Trumpkins a loss. Of course being Black and sane my family doesn’t have any. (Thank God!) YMMV.

I don’t think they’re “condoning” the behavior per se. But that doesn’t really matter:

Stick with it, man. I think we have to do these things in order to force some progress. The way I look at it, they don’t get the privilege of me being a supportive family member if they have views like that. And I know damn well I’m fine without them.

Yes… Yes it does.

It won’t - she’ll always see your choice as the problem that needs to be solved - but you’re doing the right thing.

The answer to your Q is yes. Because you have a choice to do something about it. I made a pledge like two years ago to stop giving my parents a pass when they said weird old people things, primarily microaggressions. Sometimes it was uncomfortable but you can teach an old dog new tricks. I’m lucky because they’re…

You absolutely have to call people on their racist, sexist, xenophobic, homophobic shit....especially if they’re family or a friend!

“Should we tolerate bigotry because the racist in question is our parent?”

Yes. Yes it does.