While Pharrell is in his sheltered bubble talking about being a New Black, our folks are over here being subjected to New Lynchings, New Jim Crow and now New Slavery.

because everything is golden when we are together

So, to comment on that first story, there is no sandwich more misunderstood than the Rueben. Only in California have I had problems ordering a Reuben. It's listed on a menu at a deli and you're asked questions like:

The comments on this board further prove how white feminists feel about African American women. Gloria attempts to give credit to black women and right on cue white women come out to refute her comments. Look, it is difficult to say, who exactly started the feminist movement. There are also different "waves" of the…

I get what you're saying, I do. But I think Jessica's point was to create just one place where people could share this without getting the "well I picked wildflowers and put them in mason jars and had a $20 wedding in a local park" posts - because they do get obnoxious and make people feel bad for what they chose to…

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My best friend's twin brother's wedding was the business. The bride's family is how do you say.......very Clampett from the Beverly Hillbillies. Simple country folk that did very well in real estate. We are at a 5 star resort and in the lobby after the rehearsal dinner, the sister of the bride BEAT THE SHIT out of…

We had a small wedding and didn't have any kind of "coordinator", paid or family because the venue we were at had a staff person on site who was supposed to run interference, keep the food coming, tell the DJ where to set up, etc. We got there a few minutes early (our off-site ceremony was WAY shorter than planned,…

I sell swimwear for a living, if you want to get at those low cut swimsuits and want to avoide slippage: allow me to introduce LENNY!!!

I'm pretty sure everyone else has made the points I wanted to make, Yoga Nerd in particular (deep breaths and some lorazepam for that rage, friend!). But I also have a HUGE issue with her calling it "empowering" - it is not empowering, it is irresponsible and selfish and our biology has not "evolved" enough to support…

I once worked somewhere where the head of HR drafted a very sensitive email listing several employees who were going to be let go, as well as both the actual reasons for their termination and a blurb outlining what they would tell everyone the reasons were (and the two were veeeeery different). This genius then…

Congrats and don't sweat it, nobody ever fills out rsvp cards. I think our rsvp rate was like 60% of the guests and some of them didn't even fill it out correctly. You'll be okay!

Her premise for that call to arms is that white women have assisted in the fight for those other groups' equal rights, and historically, that's not even true. The feminist movement as a political force has been frequently charged with intersectional failures.

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When my husband and I got married I said there was only one goal: be married by the end of it. My husband then promptly forgot to bring the marriage license to the ceremony and left it at his office. We had to get the officiant (one of his college friends) to meet us the next day to get everything signed.

Also getting married soon and as someone and I am having to console myself the same way. There are so many variables, and so many things I can't control, that I have to remember I get to marry the man I love, and as long as we have that everything else is a bonus.

Funny story:

My measure of success was "as long as no one dies" (though a groomsman did fall off a ladder and require seven stitches mid-party).

Our wedding wasn't "screwed up" by this—the majority of the guests had no idea that it happened and we didn't let it keep us from having a good time—but it was definitely my father-in-law, his wife and step daughter/her husband/her best friend, the grandma on that side, and my brother-in-law, for leaving immediately…