When I was in college, I had all sorts of ludicrous theories about being an Asian male in the dating world, all of which were thinly veiled attempts at justifying my own insecurities and failures.

I just updated my OKC response statistics spreadsheet (because I keep such things), and my 1st-time response rate is now at 14.79%. I honestly thought it would be lower given recent performance, but my total pool is so high now that even longish runs of failure don't sway the total number too much. (Side note:…

Pie. Every grilled cheese sandwich needs to be washed down with pie.

A bit of prologue: I'm a male seeking females.

I love cats and dogs both so much, I kind of forget people ally with one camp so often.

It's a favorite.

Oh, the same old thing. They don't find me attractive. It's the way it goes.

This month in OKC messages I've sent that have gotten no responses:

Haha, thanks. I have sent out simpler messages (admittedly when I can't think of anything funny to say), but I try to always make the messages tailored to the individual and ask a question about something in her profile. But, yeah, not much luck.

Thanks!

You actually hit on something I've been thinking lately: that my profile might be a bit too schticky. I've been working on pruning it down to make it briefer (I'm verbose), and I kind of ended up with a high ratio of humor to sincerity. Though I tend to think that most of my profile humor is actually based in…

I get that. I've thought about that, too, but I keep coming out with the conclusion that trying something funny is the only way I'm going to stick out from the crowd.

I guess you're the type of person I keep holding out for XD

That image repeats in my mind as well. It'd be even better if it was a comically large steak knife.

I would do any and all of the things you mention if any of them responded :/

This week in OKC messages I've sent that have gotten no responses:

I was messing around with my OKCupid profile and reflecting on my lack of success*, and it occurred to me that I don't think I've ever been flirted with. In real life, I mean. Ever. Weird realization.

I guess I associate OKC with a younger-skewing group of people. Whether or not that is true I don't know. Also, looking it up, Match isn't free. So there's that.

I dunno; I guess OKC is really the only one on my radar. I don't really know what the demographic on Match or other websites are like. Is there something I should know?

Oh, yeah, I totally get that. I've had more than one occasion where I couldn't send a woman a message because her inbox is full. I can't exactly relate, of course, but I understand that some people are popular enough not to be able to feasibly respond to everything.