Yeah, those messages are everywhere. I think even with the best intentions we perpetuate sexism sometimes, because we live in a sexist culture. I try to be mindful but I'm sure I do it too.

See now *that* is a valid point that doesn’t rely on sexism or shaming.

Yeah. And she must be insecure. She must not have anything else to be proud of. REAL women ______. And on and on.

There’s a lot of internalized misogyny on display in the way women respond to Kim Kardashian. We still have a long way to go.

Well gosh, being called a bad person by a rape apologist is just heartbreaking.

You said: “90% of comments here are more concerned about feeling morally righteous than anything.”

How the fuck would you know? Do you have any idea how many women are sexually harassed and assaulted? Of course not, because if you did you wouldn’t be here with that “quit asking for it” bullshit. Women aren't responsible for preventing rape. Rapists are. Let that marinate a while before you pop off about something…

If you don’t wanna get raped, just don’t leave the house, amirite

Foolhardy in what way? Do you think early intervention and treatment would do harm in those situations? I certainly don’t, and as long as we’re writing people off as hopeless there will continue to be people who don’t get the help they need.

I feel sorry for anyone in your care.

Reminds me of Don bachardy drawing Chris Isherwood every day as he was dying. Maybe this was born out of the same kind of impulse.

The hard science you’re referencing is neuroscience, which is exactly what I’m talking about. Scans show no such thing as “others” walking amongst us. In fact, neuroplasticity ensures that changes to the brain (such as those caused by trauma) can be addressed and healed through treatment.

Great point. My mom’s favorite song is “he stopped loving her today,” so I should’ve thought of that!

From your lips to gods ears!

Yeah I’m not usually this cynical so I was hoping someone could turn my sourness around. I think the idea of sharing the experience (when the ugliness of cancer is so often obscured) is a positive one. I’m all for advocacy and I think (as another commenter pointed out) it was the comments by super-religious friends…

Good point — I think it’s the comments that gave me the willies more than the content (which I never clicked).

That's a good question! It's possible he used the platform to advocate for early detection. I'm really unfamiliar with them outside the MANY posts on my social media timelines.

Publicity? Increased album and merch sales? Revenue from the blog? Again, I’m not trying to be cynical. It just hit me weird.

As a mental health professional with some familiarity with neuroscience I’m wondering what you base this assessment on. “Some people are beyond hope” is a very subjective statement and one I’d argue is the product of one’s own faith (or lack thereof).

I’m totally prepared to be wrong on this, but as someone who’s reasonably aware of country music i’d never heard of the Feeks and the barrage of publicity surrounding her last days felt really distasteful to me. Like maybe a little munchauseny on the part of the husband and the people performing grief on social media.…