maybe I missed this, but were the other attendees/actors to this performance piece just standing around? Didn't anyone say (after the first 10 minutes of whipping, maybe?) "hey, stop, you're hurting him."? And if that's the point, just to let abuse/assault happen because it's art, then I'm way too damn old and don't…

Yeah, these comments are really grossing me out. :|

People often forget that there's a third part of fight or flight: freeze. She had already physically attacked him. He had no idea of knowing how far she would go. What if she had a knife or a gun?

Funny story! She has a copy of a novel I wrote in late high school early college that is a thinly veiled retelling of our relationship. She hasn't finished. In the end, the daughter leaves her mother to die in a fire. If she notices (unlikely?), shit could get awkward.

You're right. Also, sometimes when someone is being raped, they're so in shock that it's actually happening that they can't do anything about it. They're just too unable to process what is happening because they didn't expect it to happen. My guess is a lot of men experience this when they get raped, because they…

I'm glad that you wrote this, because I asked myself the same thing. Then, I thought, wait, maybe he was paralyzed by fear, or was in a space of "WTF-is-this-really-happening?" So, thank you for the perspective.

Would they be saying the same thing if he were a woman we all think is an asshole?

I got into this exact same conversation not long ago. Except someone was asking "What was going through that woman's head that Cosby would rape her and she'd go see him again?"

It's victim blaming and victim blaming is never okay, doesn't matter if the victim is a man or a woman.

This year is the very worst. I have been run out of Ferguson because my house is right next to the fires. I am crashing on an air mattress three hours away with my two dogs at my mother's house, a woman I try to limit my encounters with to twice a year at best for various reasons. Some highlights from yours truly, the…

Senior year of high school, my dementia ridden grandfather thought Thanksgiving dinner was just starting (we had finished but the adults still were around the table talking and drinking) and tried to say the Lord's Prayer as he pissed himself, destroying my mother's sanity and a dining room chair. Simultaneously…

How are there people who don't love her? This was great, and she was great last year when he blew their interview.

I know next to nothing about her and she really comes across as super cool in this..! I want to join you for martinis and eye rolling at chelsea!

Maybe... IT WAS YOU WHO MADE THE ARM DISAPPEAR.

OLD WHITE DUDES

Once again, the victim gets tossed aside to focus on men and their feelings. Fantastic.

He was "auditioning" anchors for potential interviews last week. So fuck this asshole for his (or his lawyer's) "appropriate venue and not in the media" bullshit. Probably an interview with the anchor of his choosing and with all questions pre-approved in advance.

Oh I'd believe it. Civil Court is cold comfort but it's better than feeling like no justice at all happened.