Which is weird, because how many comic book nerds, especially the older ones, would have started with the paper equivalent of seeing Avengers first: picking up a random issue of some comic because it looked cool and maybe you recognized one character?  The genre is built on throwing people in the deep end and hoping…

OMG, I picked it up and I want so badly to run a MtG DnD campaign.  I’ve gotten really into the MtG lore, and the Ravnica guide sealed my fate.

But I’m waiting in Istanbul!

Internalized Oppression

THIS.  Exactly this.

That’s a very good point. People use the idea that “it couldn’t happen to me because I’m better than that” to defend their psyches from all the threats in the world. They send victims right under the bus to bolster their own sense of safety through the just world fallacy.

Right, typically there are "Romeo and Juliet" exceptions. I don't think R Kelly falls into that category.

I agree.

We’re also taught to victim blame, because it helps the perpetrators continue to perpetrate.

Razor-sharp analysis. There’s a lot of misplaced anger & fear when women blame other women. The unshakeable thought that “It could have been me” is the root of all of it, and since people don’t like to feel vulnerable and terrified like that, some lash out.

No, you are right. That’s exactly the why victim-blaming exists: it gives you a measure of control and a sense of safety in a scary world that is full of monsters that attack people randomly (random in the sense that they don’t punish people who did “something wrong”).

Identifying with a victim’s situation, social-location and/or trauma makes women feel so incredibly vulnerable that they start building walls immediately instead of empathizing. “That couldn’t be me because of ___” is easier to stomach then “There but for the grace of God go I.” I see a parallel in dudes who are like,…

The “just world” fallacy.

Excellent point. I never thought of women victim blaming other women in that light. It makes perfect sense.  

We always want the bad thing not to be our fault. What’s the first thing people ask when they hear someone has lung cancer? “Did s/he smoke?” And if the answer is yes, you can think, OK, I don’t smoke so lung cancer isn’t in my future - when of course we know that non-smokers can get lung cancer. After Sandy Hook, I…

I think that ties into #8. You hear a lot of “couldn’t be me” when something happens. After the Kavanaugh hearings, I was watching a panel of people on CNN who were asked what they thought and one woman said she 100% believed Christine Blasey Ford. Another woman who did not believe Dr. Ford was like, well, I know if I…

Seriously this. Reminds me of how for Phantom Menace, Liam Neeson and Ewan McGregor apparently just could not stop making lightsaber noises. I don’t think there’s any behind the scenes video of that, which is a loss to all of us honestly.

In Europe, it’s a Battle Royale with cheese.

I mean, we have literal evidence that Snyder can’t see the forest for the trees.