“Who knew opera fans were quite so aggressive?”

Opera absolutely DOES have huge misogyny problems (as well as major, MAJOR orientalism problems) but this is really more of a sensationalism problem. Increasingly opera directors are taking leaves from the worst aspects of film and TV by using sexual assault as set dressing.

For all the critisisms rappers and rockstars get all these hoity toity stuck up art types can be far far worse. Opera, fine art, theatre are hotbeds for misogyny and female objectification.

As someone who has never even been to the US, it’s impossible and would be wholly unfair to judge the country, or aspects of it. But please allow me to tell you this: I’ve been educated these past few weeks. Seriously, I never knew the Confederate flag had such a racist and hurtful meaning to people. I only learned…

I have been unemployed since April and only had one job interview so far. It’s driving me crazy. I don’t know if this helps your self-esteem or not, but I have a PhD and live in a thriving economy (Germany’s unemployment rate is at an all-time low right now) and yet I still can’t seem to convince anyone to hire me.…

I’m sorry to hear this. It sucks.

Just asked why the servers wouldn’t just switch up. That’s what we did when I worked in restaurants.

In that situation, why doesn’t management allow you to have another server trade tables with you? That’s what happened when I was a hostess/waitress a long time ago. If one of us got triple sat just because of where the tables were (not because people asked for a particular server), we’d ask another server to take the…

The problem was, when I was a host at least, fucking management would scream at me if there were “open” (out of section) tables and a wait. They also told us to always do whatever the customer requested. It was ridiculous. We literally couldn’t put our foot down, because we would get fired. But none of the servers…

This is SO true! I was the host supervisor at a fancy place, and the smart servers were REALLY nice to me, because they knew I controlled seating (I was always pretty fair, though). One time a jerk male server snapped me in the hip with a wet towel and made me bleed. Since I was 20 and dumb, I didn’t file a complaint…

I was the lead host at a fancy restaurant so I got called the maitre d’, and after a ridiculous complaint by a guest, I was fired by the new GM who didn’t like me.

God, the bad seating diagram! I hated when managers would try to pull shit with the seating diagram to punish servers, because I knew I would be the one taking heat for it. Fortunately, at the restaurant where I hosted, the servers themselves were cool, and would just agree to divide the tables more fairly without…

““But it’s 10:55 pm, it’s like a race! We made it through the door on time!” HOST, this is where you need to say fuck no. In fact, if it’s after 10:45, say fuck no or else both FOH and BOH will want to kill you.”

As someone who is currently a host (which is literally the worst), I also have to disagree that hosts are at fault for not “putting our foot down.” I also do my best to not fuck the servers over, but unfortunately, it’s our job to let the customers sit where they want, when they want. I will try to deflect when I can.…

I get that. I totally understand from a corporate policy perspective, I was commenting on the guy who was like “Well if it says they close at 10, why can’t I come in at 10?” A restaurant can allow that if they choose to, but it’s not something he should expect. They may in fact want to be locking the door at 10 (and…

The problem is that “Make a consumer-friendly app, gradually start fucking over businesses, expect them to deal with it because it’s worth the extra traffic the app generates” is a standard business model in the app world. It makes money for the app creator, but it’s actively harmful to the businesses. The…

Now, granted, I’m an asshole, but I would tell people the kitchen/coffee bar/whatever was closing, and if they insisted on being sat, then I sat them. If they could get their order in STAT, I’d put it in, but after that they just got the privilege of sitting at a table and watching us mop. The kitchen closed on time.

I worked briefly as a host as a sidejob, and there was one server who refused to respond to me (speaking into the wind basically) when I told her she had a table. This is my biggest pet peeve, and I didn't know how to respond to it, so I just ended up giving her tables away to the next person on her rotation. She was…

Being a host is pretty much the worst, either you have the creepy older dudes hitting on them or the horrible customers abusing them. And since most places hire 16 year old girls for said job, they haven’t quite learned to stand up for themselves yet.