Oh yuck. I wouldn't even want to get a box from a company who makes it a prerequisite that I harass my friends. That's even more annoying than women who sell candles or necklaces or nail stickies or whatever.

I can not only not walk in heels, I can't even wear flats for extended periods because nobody (not even Toms) seems to make flats with appropriate arch support. I get nasty plantar fasciitis if I wear anything other than sneakers (and specifically brand sneakers with good support, no flat-foot knockoffs) or perhaps…

I do. I can't walk in heels. At all. Maybe for 5-10 minutes. That's it.

I can't even walk in flats - I need serious arch support.

I don't even think they support like a sneaker - the arch support I need just isn't there. The only thing I've found that supports like a sneaker is an actual sneaker, specifically one with strong plantar fascia support (which means I can't buy sneakers where I live in Asia because they're all flat).

I know there are…

It really confuses me why people get so up-in-arms about things like not wearing heels at your wedding. I mean, I get why some of the older crowd and a few stick-in-the-mud younger folks get bent out of shape when other people make major decisions they deem "tacky" (I don't agree with them, I just get why they'd think…

But hey, this pretty much amputates and cauterizes any sort of bullshit idea that Asian men are emasculated/effeminate/wimpy/girly. First a Taiwanese American and now a guy from Malaysia directing what is probably the most "IN AMURRICA WE RACE CARZ" boom-boom slam-slam screech-screech movie franchise going.

Transparent dress = eek!

That's pretty common. If you read Anthony Bourdain's book, you'll read that pretty much every restaurant with free bread does this.

All of that takes much more effort than "all it takes is a quick glance at the nutritional information". Which basically invalidates your first point.

"All it takes is a quick glance at the nutritional information."

Soooooo even if I were to try this - and I might simply as a means of portion control although I don't put a lot of stock in calorie counting - how do people even count calories?

I don't eat a lot of packaged foods. Even when I do, I live abroad and the nutritional labels are even more purposely confusing than in the…

I don't really think it's about who does who. It's just not healthy. That doesn't mean you can't do it, but it's like the quote "the thing about science is that it's true whether you believe in it or not". Ultimatums are unhealthy whether you issue them or not.

You have every reason to assume, if you've told them what you need before and they haven't attempted to give you that. It shouldn't take "or I'm leaving" for them to "finally" realize anything. In fact, that is the only conclusion to be drawn from that scenario, so honestly, as I see it you're totally wrong about…

In terms of "you may not want to give up the relationship or your needs"...well, you can't always get what you want, to quote the song. You can't force a situation in which you get both. You can try, but it won't turn out well for you.

(I have no idea what's up with the italics, I didn't do it, commenting is weird…

See, I don't think there has to be that middle road. If you say what you need and you talk through it until you can't talk anymore, and maybe even tried professional help if you're willing to take it that far, then you go. I just don't see an alternative that doesn't involve someone staying only because you threatened…

An ultimatum is not justified in those circumstances. What is justified is telling them what you need, and if you don't get it, leaving. Telling them "do this or I'll leave" just means that if they do it only to keep you, you've basically kept them there through threats and that's not a healthy thing either.

No…

I did not. I tried it several times, but the button just wasn't...well, I pushed "Publish" but the button went gray without the comment posting (as in, I could still edit it etc and if I tried to navigate away it told me I had unsaved text entered). So I would try again...

No, if that's happening, your best option at the time is to just leave. No ultimatums. Just go. If you would describe your relationship as "dire", no ultimatum would save it, and even if it did, it's not really worth saving.

No, if that's happening, your best option at the time is to just leave. No ultimatums. Just go. If you would describe your relationship as "dire", no ultimatum would save it, and even if it did, it's not really worth saving.

No, if that's happening, your best option at the time is to just leave. No ultimatums. Just go. If you would describe your relationship as "dire", no ultimatum would save it, and even if it did, it's not really worth saving.