No, if that's happening, your best option at the time is to just leave. No ultimatums. Just go. If you would describe your relationship as "dire", no ultimatum would save it, and even if it did, it's not really worth saving.

No, if that's happening, your best option at the time is to just leave. No ultimatums. Just go.

No, if that's happening, your best option at the time is to just leave. No ultimatums. Just go.

No, if that's happening, your best option at the time is to just leave. No ultimatums. Just go.

My fave advice columnist, Carolyn Hax, covered this topic. She acknowledged that in those situations, where you really will leave (it's not bluffing to force someone to change), ultimatums are still no good. If you tell someone what you want and need (and leave off the "do this or I'm leaving!") part, and they don't…

I'm with you on this. Dudes ARE always cheating, but SO ARE THE LADIEZ.

Why would I admit that I wand to preserve that system? I absolutely don't. I was a server for six months and I hated it - minimum wage (of $15 would be great) would have made it much more bearable. I wasn't a great server, but even if I had been I wouldn't have brought home "several hundred dollars" a night in tips.

Sh…

What pisses me off as a former waitress about this is that what this fuckbucket is saying is basically "I think I should be able to go to restaurants and servers will have to serve me for free". Because when you make $2.19 an hour or whatever, all of your paid wages goes to taxes. So if you don't get tipped, you don't…

Actual "paleo" recipe I saw on facebook:

paleo cauliflower sushi

Estimate: $25,000? I never did more precise math than that.

Yeah, it's a thing, and I don't get it either. I never got that far in with a guy like that, but I did meet and do a little club makeout thing with a guy, then talked to him for awhile and actually liked him (this isn't a cheating story, btw, just riffing on the "complete turnaround"). But he was visiting from another…

Next time rather than a salve like Tiger Balm, go to an Asian grocery and get 白花油 (White Flower Oil) or Tiger Balm Oil, which is a thing. It's a clear oil, so it'll mix with the "hand" lotion really thoroughly and provide a bigger, uh, effect than Tiger Balm.

How do I know? A few drops of it in a handful of body…

I don't really see anything funny about "LOLOLLLLL at people who expect basic safety in a fast-food environment!!" Why make a joke at something that's really...not a joke?

Why is it so funny to expect basic safety procedures in a workplace, any workplace?

While working at a restaurant we'll call CGI Schmidays, I went to get a big ol' tub of honey mustard for some reason. It was at the top of some big metal storage thing. I could barely reach it, grasped it with my fingers, and it of course came toppling down and the corner fell right on my foot.

Even if you do find that partner - the one you know will throw it all in with you, and really hold up his (I'm being heteronormative here because the article is but this could easily be any sort of LGBT couple) end of the child rearing, you may STILL not want kids.

Still doesn't make it a 'neutral fact'. Still doesn't make it 'not evil'. Even if it's to be expected, it's evil.

Yeah, I know, that doesn't contradict anything I said. Just that I have no idea when I would have had that extra exposure as there was nobody around to teach me who had the motivation and the time. So who facilitated my learning to read?

Dunno, I think trying to get work out of people without paying them for it (even if that work is "extra" work and the pay is "extra" and there is already a base pay) is immoral.

IDK, falling in love with the right guy (or girl or whatever gender presentation that person has chosen) is awesome. I want to say it's a little scary but I genuinely did not think it was. It just felt like "yeah, this is the guy, this is him, coo'."