You kinda sound like an MRA actually.

I think the fact that the rape of women has been smoothed over and excused by viewing men in the offensive way that this man is complaining about is very important and it's great that this man understands this.

oops, I realize it was not your friend. Change that to "It sounds like that person's friend..."

It sounds like your friend is not a rapist. He stopped when the information about her inability to consent became available. Obviously that information was clear. If he was a rapist he would have continued despite having the knowledge that she wasn't mentally competent to make sexual choices. If an 11 year old…

There are more false rape denials than false accusations, and even more unreported rapes. For some reason people (guys) are always quick to point out that there is the occasional accusation that is found to be false but oblivious to the fact that most guys who are justifiably accused deny it. Basically, if there is…

Yeah, I think I'll trust the lawyer on this one, not the person who thinks that because they recently had the police investigate a break and enter they are an expert on how rape cases are legally handled.

I didn't say he raped her (and neither did she). I said he was selfish (and so did she). She wasn't in denial about her own involvement in the unhealthy relationship and has resolved to not consent to those circumstances in the future. You might go back to the original post to refresh your memory of what we are…

Maybe it's debatable but I think the idea is that birth control pills and the like are medicine in that they treat a physical condition and they require a prescription from a doctor. I suppose it is kinda weird to pathologize fertility but we use preventative health care when we are pregnant and quite often deliver…

HE had a problem and instead of dealing with it himself he chose to unfairly cause problems for her. He could have sold his practice and retired early if other more modest measures did not ease his personal torment. I know if I like someone and they don't like me back it's my problem, not theirs. I know that if my…

I have never been diagnosed by a doctor either, I was just told that it was a normal PMS symptom. When it started to be a problem for me to some degree all the time, I looked into it for myself and came to the conclusion that doctors only see sick people which colours what they consider to be "normal". I hope you…

Someone else mentioned fibrocystic breasts. breasthealthproject.com has instruction on lymph massage that might help (if you have fibrocystic breasts). Total elimination of caffeine can help with this particular problem as well (worked for me and anecdotally many others, doctors don't know why.)

Unwanted pregnancy, asymptomatic STD's the other person may have and not know or that you may have and not know, trust in a person that may or may not deserve that trust for reasons you don't know. Those are things to be concerned about when having sex and a guy who doesn't respect a woman's concerns regarding these…

Well said.

What you said, actually, is that it is not selfish to put your sexual pleasure ahead of the health, safety, and peace of mind of another person. Good for you for knowing what you want but if your lover wants your penis in her but wants to be safe, don't whine and say "me me me me me me me me wah wah," (feel free to…

Is your argument that being non monogamous is not a bad thing because it doesn't really reflect on your relationship with your partner? Or are you disagreeing with the idea that when a person cheats it is because of their own desires and issues, not because they see a deficit in their relationship?

I thought the defense wasn't allowed to talk about a victims sexual history or what she was wearing. I live in Canada though, we do things differently sometimes.

You be you, and I'll be me, and that means deciding for myself what role I play in my family and in society.

I've seen people be called a troll when it seemed like they were just honestly missing some information. I had a convo with someone on Jez today when he went on a victim blaming rant that he meant as safety advice to women. He seemed sincere and (awkwardly) well meaning and just needed to be educated. He now knows…

I think we are traumatized by all the horror stories we hear but I think generally the police and the courts are getting better at handling sexual assault cases. My husband has some Playboy magazines from the 60's (super interesting reads, very liberal editorial content but even liberals had a long way to go back…