Did I ever say that Caitlyn presenting as male for most of her life had zero effect on her life? No, not at all. But you’re making specific assertions about what affect that had on her life, and you really have no idea if it’s true. For all we know, being trans and assigned male at birth was a moderating experience on…

There is a massive amount of cognitive dissonance on the left, with people often reluctant to examine their own lingering prejudices because of how much of their identity and sense of self are invested in being woke and being on the right side of history. It’s even worse in feminist spaces specifically regarding trans…

Since I troll my own threads constantly looking for validation, I definitely see and appreciate your comment :D

But that’s not really what you said: you specifically attributed certain negative aspects of Caitlyn’s behavior to being “socialized as a man”:

Thanks for sharing. I’m sorry you feel like you have to justify being a woman. Your experience is not any less authentic. All women, trans or cis, have their own unique ways of experiencing their gender identity. Your journey shouldn’t make you feel like it’s any less real than a woman who was born female and always…

“I’ve spent my entire remembered life struggling with feeling like a fraud. Now that I’m coming out, other people will tell me outright that I’m a fraud.”

I think transwomen are absolutely women, and immigrants are absolutely Americans. Becoming a woman, regardless of what genitalia you’re born with, is an individual and unique experience. I am an immigrant, yes my experience as an American is different from some, but I am still just as much of an American as anyone…

Thanks for sharing your experience. I am sorry for your struggles and I just wanted to send you love and support as you transition. I don’t know you but I care about your health and well being and you being able to be your true self. Loads of love and good juju from a random stranger. <3

It’s work, too. Like, it’s part of recognizing who I am: Recognizing that I have absorbed some behaviors and expectations, acknowledging them, and then voluntarily working to downplay and eliminate those behaviors and expectations that are borne of being raised with the expectation that I act and be male.

I think you’re right, in that everyone is different. I transitioned at 25, and I think that age can be a factor-the longer you travel in one groove, the harder it is to break out of it. But also, I think that the differences are played up by those who would wish to see us disappear, and the most extreme examples are…

I’m someone coming out as a trans woman as a 40 year old; I think the biggest lesson to be learned is that everyone is different. I certainly think Caitlyn is reprehensible as a clueless and privileged human being. I also don’t doubt some of that privilege isn’t just rich person or white person but also male in…

Hi! Perhaps I can help.

So, I’m white and I was wondering if someone could help me make this all about me.

Honestly as a trans woman myself, one of the most frustrating parts of Caitlyn’s transition has been watching cis feminists line up and talk about Caitlyn in generalizations and stereotypes that are either ignorant of or deliberately trying to overlook the Ivanka Trumps of the world. This idea that somehow Caitlyn’s…

Everybody’s milage varies on that. Socialization is a game of catch, and a lot of transgender people subconsciously catch gender-role messages aimed at their authentic gender. Also, we are now living with transgender adolescents that have been living as their authentic gender since age 3-4. As they come of age, there…

this line of thinking is used to delegitimize their experience as women, though. as young children, they feel the conflict between what society is telling them and what their hearts and minds tell them. they experience emotional trauma related to what society keeps trying to shove down their throats and their gender…

Not the beautiful ones.

Because you never think it’s going to happen to you, until it does.

Why would women work for Fox News?

It needs to be connected to WiFi so that it can cost $400.