I used to work in public access as a camera person part time. The host and most of the guests were black, but once in a while we had a white guest, and it completely destroyed the shots we were trying to get.

I can’t link to specific studies, but it sounds like a plausible estimate to me. The cultural messaging that a woman’s no is the starting rather than the endpoint of the negotiation is pervasive. And since women are statistically less likely to get violent if you pester them, there’s no cost to convenient misreadings…

But when she ripped up that photo, Sinead was protesting and trying to get public attention on the Magdalene laundries that were yet another Catholic Church horror show. (And more to come!) The only reason the Magdalene laundries were discovered is because a developer, who had just bought land from some nuns, found a…

Good job not reading past that, pal. Go away.

I so voted for mothwoman. I have SOOOO many ideas!

100% voted for mothwoman...I mean LOOK AT THIS:

I don’t disagree - but how do you get affordable child-care for a low-income family where both parents make minimum wage and rent takes up 50% of their GROSS income leaving them literally wondering how they will pay for all the other necessities in life - food, clothing, transportation, toiletries, etc? How about a…

Of course they should make a decent living, but my two kids are in classes with 6:1 and 8:1 teacher ratios. Even accounting for additional overhead, it doesn’t seem to follow that I should be paying enough to cancel out my (fairly decent for where I live) salary.

Child care workers not making a living wage is an enormous problem. This was an interesting story on that topic: https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2015/11/childcare-workers-cant-afford-childcare/414496/

Butterflies are way more likely to leave you alone though. The horror of moths is not just that they’re gross, dirty and ugly, it’s that they dive bomb themselves into your face and hair and will keep at it even as you wildly try to shoo them away. I’ve never had a butterfly do that.

Yep. I have mottephobia (legit, you guys), and butterflies to me are ninja moths - I only tolerate them slightly more than moths themselves.

My wife and I buy all of our produce at Aldi, and very few processed foods. I guess it depends on what your staples are...

Lidl is just opening up in the US this summer. They are going to start building one right be hind my house soon. They were going to compete at the Aldi level, but decided to upscale a little more and be more like a Trader Joe’s which is owned by Aldi Nord.

I found a combination of direct confrontation and indirect correction works with passive aggressive comments from my mom.

Because even if she’s an ax murderer, she’s still the kid’s mom and the kid will love her in some way no matter what? And if you tell your kid that mom sucks, the kid likely will worry that they 50% suck by being half mom. Kids are little sponges and even if that’s not how you mean it, it’s how they may internalize.

If he still has the base nerve to bad-mouth her, despite everything she’s doing for him, he doesn’t deserve to be in their lives at all. It’ll probably really suck for his daughter given how attached she seems, but that sort of behavior is beyond the pall.

My daughter was 4 when her mother told me she had found somebody else and that we were over. We made custody arrangements that we stuck to as we waited out the mandatory 1 year separation, and neither one of us went the badmouthing route. Can’t speak for the ex, but I didn’t because I didn’t want to waste my time with…

but much worse he talks bad about me to our four year old daughter.

You missed the killer line:

Well now I feel like an asshole. I once found $60 on the street. There was a big office building midway down the street that I assumed the owner was in. But also... NYC, no one was around, there were probably literally thousands of people working in the building. So I took it without a second thought.