Yeah, that's how I found out, by seeing his arrest in the paper. It was horrifying.

About 15% of women in the military are sexually assaulted. So what was that you were saying again?

they'll do anything for you except using language that demeans you.

I think he did mean it in that way, although I probably wouldn't tell my 13 year old that.

Why don't you try to be the kind of person your family, girlfriend, et. al. could respect even if they had access to your accounts?

I actually knew a guy who was hosting 5TB of child porn in a rack in his garage.

Except not using language that disparages them, I guess.

I don't really think this specific situation was scary but in general, if a group of male athletes approaches me and I'm alone and they want to meet me later, I might be wary. Given some of the things that have happened, that's not unreasonable.

And that's bad because?

when i was really little my grandfather, whom i loved to pieces, taught me the "eeny meeny miney mo" song the racist way. my mom told him to knock it off and he said it's just a song, it didn't mean anything, it was how he learned it from his daddy, etc. my mom said "that's not how we act any more." he never said…

in court. if I say, no, i don't want to date you/hang out with you/have you on my team because i think you're a rapist, i'm free to do that.

blah blah blah think of the poor rapist

Mary is very uncommon now. It's in the 500s for baby girls in 2013, according to the SSA.

Sometimes I think the world will never change and then lookit there, what do you know. The arc of the universe bending towards justice and all.

Great. Find therapy that works, since none of the programs currently in use have a significant advantage over no therapy at all. But the fact still remains that if Hardy felt like his behavior was an issue, that he was somehow in the wrong for beating and strangling a woman and throwing her on to a pile of automatic…

Fish because of the mercury and lunch meat because of the risk of listeria. Heating kills listeria.

I object when we as a society offer more consideration and care towards men who beat women than we do the women who are beaten. He has the chance to change, all he wants. He can hire a therapist, he can hire the equivalent of a sober companion (an anger management companion? IDK but you get the idea). He has the money…

That's not the point. Hardy couldn't beat up his girlfriend in prison and his girlfriend might even get to feel safe from him for a while. If she's lucky she might get enough time to get away, change her name and start a new life.

30-40% of arrested abusers are arrested again and they're the ones who get caught. Other studies say upwards of 60% re-offend. There may be a few cases where therapy works but for the most part when you're broken you stay broken.

that's kind of fucked up.