I hear this excuse from men all the time.

Oh definitely. I hate cleaning and I have a hard time getting stared, but saying I don’t know how to would be totally disingenuous.

Okay, this is actually frightening. Your husband refuses to clean the litter boxes knowing you CANNOT do it to the point where the cat pees in the sink? Yells at you because he can’t be arsed to clean up after himself but moving something is a federal crime? BLAMES ANYTHING THAT HAPPENS THAT HE DOESN’T LIKE ON YOU???

Like, who “learns” how to clean? You apply cleaner, you scrub. The cleaners tell you what they’re used for on the bottle. Watch one hour of TV and Mr. Clean will show you how it’s done, if you are a visual learner. FFS.

In my case it’s a combination of autism and ADHD, but it only affects me and my cats(I never let it get to the point of neglecting the litter box, tho, or “their” space) and I’ve gotten really good at making sure I do my best to clean one day a week(schedule in my phone). Actually my house is pretty clean these…

You’re home enough to chase after and clean up after Pee Cat every.single.time it pees in the sink, but you don’t have time to do your fucking dishes more than once a week? And husband getting mad asking him to clean a fucking litter box? Let me guess, he is going to whine having to “babysit” his own kid, too. I don’t…

I don’t want to pile on this lady, but I just gotta say: if asking her husband to clean the litter box while she’s freaking pregnant elicits anything other than “of course dear”, let alone a fight, then there are problems. She can’t do it, it needs to be done, he’s the only other person available. This does not bode…

A-friggin-men.

hey drama queen, you’re the one who decided to tell everyone how you live in squalor of your own volition but it’s totes not a big deal.

Oh noooo, god forbid people shame you for living in squalor when you can afford to clean your place. People telling how to stop living like an animal is the microagression of the century, isn’t it?

WTF?! No one has said that you need to kill your cat! Also, you stated in a previous comment that the reason your cat does this is because your husband refuses to clean the litterbox while you’re pregnant.

It’s sad that the AVClub is now just a dumping ground for linking to other great material instead of producing its own.

I know some women do definitely have this problem, but “I don’t know how to clean” is definitely also Man speak for “cleaning is beneath me.”

I don’t know you, but if you were my friend I would tell you to tell your husband to go fuck himself. Boundaries are important in a marriage and it’s more important for your kid to grow up in a clean environment than it is for him to have his things not moved. I know this is easier said than done, but laying down the…

I had a roommate in college who swore she didn’t know how to clean. I wrote down detailed instructions on what needed to be cleaned, how often, and with what cleaning product. Then it changed to she didn’t see the mess. Like, she legit argued she couldn’t tell the difference between a countertop just wiped clean and…

There’s a difference between mess/clutter and filth. No one is expecting there not to be any dust, but pet messes need to be cleaned up, dishes need to be done and the trash needs to be taken out regularly. That’s really all you need to do, but those things HAVE to be done so that the home is safe.

Why would someone take differential geometry classes when they don’t need to for their future?

Animal pee in the kitchen sink isn’t ‘messy’, its ‘dirty’ and a health hazard.

Nah, I say the aliens making Beth choose which child lives was a spot-on reference to Sophie’s Choice. You know—child.

“By my second time in court, I also learned that the judge I had had a reputation for being tough. She expected parents to be accountable for their actions and address the issues that had brought them to her court.”