My husband means well, as yours appears to, but he is SUPER pragmatic and so what's 'romantic' to him is generally not my idea of what's romantic. For our first anniversary this year, I gave him a nicely framed wedding photo with our self-written vows next to it. He gave me a suitcase. And then we went out to dinner…

I hear your frustrations at hopes not being met, but please appreciate this statement: "He suggested that we both try to make ourselves look good for one another, and he cooked dinner " That is huge for many guys. The fact he 'suggested' a plan and followed through shows effort and caring. I'm not trying to cut guys…

we usually do something spa and/or food related for anniversaries. Our first spa date was pedicures (literally no other treatments available and he was game to try) and now he's as enthusiastic about spa stuff as I am. It's cute. He loves to cook and I love to eat what he cooks, so if we don't go out he'll BBQ…

I always ask exactly for what I would like to do/get. We usually go to Las Vegas around our anniversary, and I pick the shows/restaurants/activities and he goes along with pretty much whatever. This year I asked him to write me a love letter. He's not very demonstrative or romantic nor is he much of a writer, but he…

Instead of waiting to be surprised Id plan something with him ahead of time. You both put in the time and effort and you will know that it's going to be something you will enjoy. Or just ask him to cook dinner and that you will pick the movie. Planning it like that relieves the pressure off of both of y'all.

Because we didn't think this through, we got married on Halloween when I was 5 months pregnant. Fast forward eight years and 4 kids later, we have yet to celebrate an anniversary. Spend EVERY Halloween Trick or Treating, guess it's a good this I luuuurve candy.

For me If really like going out and at least getting a drink or two on our anniversary . THO I live not far from a major city so its easier to go to nice restaurant for anniversaries ect.

I'm still in the early years of marriage so this is totally fwiw, but when my husband does something out of his/our routine, I try to appreciate the effort even if it's not exactly what I wanted. I'm also trying to be better about telling him what I want because as much as I'd like him to magically know what I want,…

For just regular fun my boyfriend and I do karaoke, pub trivia, game nights, and movies. For anniversaries we have done the local fair, fancy restaurant, and trip to anniversary. i do love it when he cooks though.

I find it's a good idea to focus on making plans for the day. Waiting on Mr. to do anything would result in a disappointing day. This year we saw Book of Mormon on Broadway then went to Gordon Ramsay's Maze at the London for dinner. I ordered some artisanal marshmallows and bacon peanut brittle rehab came in time for…

We only ever go for dinner out for our anniversary. Or we do a theme dinner in that we cook together. Usually lots of alcohol involved with that. But it's never a surprise anymore. I try to go to a greater effort to keep the house clean that day. Lol.

I tell my husband exactly what I want, and he's grateful as hell.

We play video games and watch Netflix. Is that romance?

I'd suggest directly telling your husband (not tonight!) about some things you would find romantic and how important romance is to you. (If you haven't already.) My husband is a very sweet and loving guy but he had no idea what type of romantic things I enjoyed until I specifically told him what I like, and we've…

Have kids. You will stop caring about most anything to do with each other. Candles are for tike bday parties and anytime you can get a round of chicken nuggets through the toaster over you will feel like you have conquered the world.

I've been married for 28 years and I can count on one hand the times I've even remembered our anniversary without my husband telling me it was coming, let alone done something special to mark it. I just feel like the marriage is the thing. Maybe your husband is like that, too.

My husband's a non-romantic himself. I think he gets overwhelmed trying to just think of something that he does nothing.

I live in the sticks too. Are you guys too broke to go out for a couple drinks? Aside from that, my husband and I like to watch Netflix or have people over for dinner (which is obviously not an anniversary thing). There's not much else to do once it gets cold and dark.

At least your husband does something. Things like that are just not on my boyfriend's radar, and if I want anything nice to happen ever, I have to tell him to do it. I love the guy, but he just isn't the romantic type.

Soooo I had a little dinner party last night, just with the bf and a couple of our mutual friends. It was fun but didn't really go the way I hoped it would, mostly because when the bf and I went up to bed, he got under the covers and I took off my dress for the grand reveal (bustier with garter clips, stockings, lacy…