Your post about my last words to my “father” clearly demonstrated that you didn’t understand the point at all.

Watch this and you may understand my actual point:

Lol. Talk about not getting the point.

I understand the point of her piece, and I thought it was a lovely work overall. The fact that her husband was portrayed as an unreal fantasy human who couldn’t possibly exist just distracted a bit from it.

“Well, Iris is gone. Who wants lunch?”

FYI: This is a piece in the Modern Love column of the New York Times, not simply a private letter from wife to husband. It is obviously a piece of writing meant for a very wide audience of readers. Calm down, it was just a small observation regarding what I already said was a strong piece of writing, particularly for…

I don’t think you’re getting it — not criticism, just something to make him sound more human and not so insanely perfect. In another string, I mentioned Robin Williams’ speech in Good Will Hunting, when he is talking about his dead wife and brings up how she would fart when she was nervous. And he noted that “that’s…

My original comment has more than 40 stars, but whatever — my life is not ruled by Jez commenter stars, and I sure hope yours isn’t either.

I get that, but it’s not just a personal letter — it’s a published piece in the New York Times. Published work is subject to critique.

Yes, I have, including my mother. And whenever anyone tried to tell me she how perfect she was or something of the kind, I always responded something along the lines of, “She was great, but she was human.” Have you noticed a recent trend in obituaries to include more honesty in all of its flawed human glory? I’m a fan.

I give your interpretations of what I said/am saying a D-minus.

Exactly. He sounds like something out of a Nicholas Sparks novel here, so it’s just a little bit harder for the reader to humanize him or relate.

It was just a small critique — HE sounds too perfect/not quite real (that one bit is very vague). Just one or two even cheekily noted “not so perfect” attributes would have humanized him a little bit more, and helped round out an already strong piece.

Lol, what? Did I say anything of the kind? Talk about reading into something that isn’t there/projecting.

Because, in life, nothing — certainly not relationships — is ever as perfect as she is saying here.

I liked this piece, but I found myself wishing she had, even cheekily, detailed some of her husband’s bad points. As she herself notes, she makes him sound like a “prince” and way too perfect to be a real person. You have to name at least a couple of assholeish or annoying qualities (we all have them) in order to…

I hear you, but life is complicated, and so are people. Neither of them follow the narratives we all want. and we can’t wish it into being any other way.

And Sara Gilbert trying on an overwrought Southern accent. Ohhhh, God, it was bad. I think I actually read an interview with her sometime in the later ‘90s where she looked back on it and was very honest about the fact that she had sucked and the movie was bad.

Oh, Lord, I remember that movie — it was called Sudie and Simpson, and it was TERRIBLE.

Unfortunately, we cannot pick and choose the criminals we WISH had committed certain crimes, and those we wish had not. Instead, we have to live in reality. This guy doesn’t deserve anyone’s conflicted feelings — he’s awful.