Why? She shouldn't have said that to you if she was in front of you in person? What would you have done, hmmm?

also, it's not like "a trusted friend" has ever been the one to sexually assault a "victim" before, right?

Yep. As a woman, you're expected to treat every moment of your life - waking and sleeping - as if you could be attacked. But there's no war on women or rape culture. Don't be paranoid! Lighten up!

Also, women in the military are frequently raped as well...

Oooooh, tell me more, dude for whom this is entirely academic.

"The military calls it 'keeping your head on a swivel' and it's probably the most important thing you can do to ensure your safety." So.... literally live every moment like I'm an Army Ranger deployed to Afghanistan? Also, those guys get paid.

You are raging against the piece because you identify with the hobbies/interests mentioned but a major aspect of Cool Girlism is suppressing your uncool wants, needs and desires. Being a Cool Girl is agreeing to do something your boyfriend wants to do even though you find it humiliating/hurtful/whatever, because if…

Also, no, we don't 'all perform gender'. I never have...I do things I like and don't do things I don't like, and seem to get along just fine.

"Why don't women just tell us when they're not interested????" -Reddit

Even people who I know and love say, 'Oh, yeah, I looked at the pictures.' I don't want to get mad, but at the same time I'm thinking, I didn't tell you that you could look at my naked body."

Why? It fits exactly the message she is trying to get out their. Her choice. She choose to present herself this way because she doesn't feel she needs to be ashamed of her body or her sexuality. It doesn't in anyway cast blame for what occurred with the leaked photos. And if anyone has issues with the cover they have…

Because the position has been calmly explained time and time again and is literally just a Google search away? You can only write "Feminism 101" so many times.

exchanging ideas is great. making it someone else's responsibility to do the hard work, isn't, especially if they are the ones who have to deal with the oppression in the first place. the point of her google search service is to point out how easy it is to get information. the first time you encounter an idea you…

I do see your point, but on the other hand I think there's this attitude that goes around on the part of some people that women, racial minorities, etc are obligated to teach people that are question their basic humanity why they are wrong. It's a good thing to try and reach people, but at the same time it isn't wrong…

She's Amazing Amy.

We are in complete agreement regarding the merits of just heading to a bare-bones ethnic place, and I love drinking 40s on the sidewalk as much as anyone with a well-rounded sense of fun.

As the resident Paul Bunyan in many of my relationships, please don't do that. It's pretty condescending and infantilizing. I'm on to people who do it, and it makes me feel manipulated, and honestly, rather angry.

SLIGHTLY related to birthrate, etc, but when is this supposed ~boon of jobs after boomers retire~ gunna hit?

Thank you! I don't think that the college system is perfect - in fact since I work in higher education I think I can safely say that it is far from it. It may not be a perfect option, but it is one, and in a lot of cases it is the only option (because of huge waits for rape kits, because the victim is about to…

Well, if it's 6% of collegiate men, and women make up about 60% of the total collegiate population, then it's only 2.4% they'd have to remove. I imagine that that's probably comparable to the percent of students that drop out due to the mismanagement of their rape and/or associated PTSD.