Firstly, my friend isn’t evidence about what colleges should or shouldn’t do. She was a minor when she was raped. She wasn’t in college. I brought up her story to answer your question about why a rapist might be free.

I’m definitely not opposed, categorically, to something like that. And some colleges do this - suspend a student if they are notified by the police that that student has been accused of some types of violent offense, or any offense at all. I do wonder, though, about the legality of those types of policies. It’s a…

In your scenario above, why is the accused even in school? Shouldn’t he be in jail?

I mean, what is your proposed solution to the first example? I’m assuming the investigation hasn’t finished because the person hasn’t been expelled, so what would you do?

Yes, I can. I’ve seen well-connected rapists get away with all kinds of things. It really fucking sucks.

So if you caught someone raping a guest at your house, you’d just let them hang out until they were convicted?

I think you’re making this comment from a well intentioned, but not-very-informed place. I work on a campus. One situation I’ve seen is when a student needs to switch out of a required class to get away from a rapist, but the only other session of the course is during another of the victim’s required courses. But the…

That’s wild! Did your son not wake up with a wet diaper or hunger? Does he not cry when he’s wet or hungry at other times? Mine have all been super demonstrative (read: screaming like maniacs) at the slightest diaper wetness, and two peed during naps, one went immediately after.

That’s crazy, so your monitor has like sticky chest pads to sense movement? That’s nuts. My kids aren’t that old, but we definitely never had that option.

I didn’t read her statement as a blanket statement. I guess where others read a silent ‘...for anyone’, I read these articles as having a silent ‘...in my…

Ha, we got one as a gift and kept it in case we ever needed a short-range (and one-way) radio or walkie-talkie. But when the kids are old enough to play with walkie-talkies, we’ll probably give it away and get some where both ends transmit.

More-or-less. I don’t really understand the problem baby monitors solve. They won’t stop your kid from dying of SIDS, and if you’re that concerned that your child might wake up and injure themselves and need immediate help, maybe make your crib area safer? Crying for a few minutes until you hear isn’t the end of the…

Do you mind if I ask a question about trying to be a good friend to a sober person (or a person who should be sober)? I recently went to meet a friend who struggles with alcohol, but as far as I know has not committed to getting sober. I hadn’t seen her in a while because she’s a very mean drunk, and was seemingly…

We’re planning to send our kids to public school. We both went to public schools, and obtained terminal degrees in our field. Having parents who understand, appreciate and encourage education is far more important than having a private school.

There’s a lot of really weird stuff around alcohol and parenting. We have friends over pretty often, and our house is walkable from friends’ homes. I don’t want to get drunk any more (loss of tolerance due to my pregnancies; kids waking you up with a hangover sucks). But I really don’t see an issue with adults getting…

Having kids doesn’t mean you make more money or that there are more hours in the day. Inviting you to things with the kids present might be your friends’ way to get to hang out with you in a way they can afford. My husband and I work slightly different hours, and don’t overlap as much as we’d like. It’s hard for us to…

Someone who is recently in recovery might not be able to have it as an option, or someone who has expanded their social circle to include people who are still struggling more than they themselves are. What you or I, as people with healthy relationships to alcohol, see as valid reasons might look very different to…

Focusing everything around booze creates a huge barrier to recovering addicts, religious abstainers, and voluntary non-drinkers. If you’re so dependent on alcohol to socialize, you’re willing to alienate people for it, maybe you need to read this article a second time.

I agree; he didn’t run a good campaign. He wrote off southern states early, because they’re too conservative, and that cost him momentum with people of color. His campaign was utterly clueless. A volunteer came up to my cousin and just started talking to him about Bernie’s ideas for prison reform. Like, what, he just…

I also wonder if we’d be having this same conversation if she didn’t have such strong support from people of color and older women. I’ve been watching the young, white men and women in my facebook feed lose their minds over the ‘illegitimacy’ of Clinton’s lead, and wondering if they’d say those same things if she…

I’m the same way.