Hard work =! success.

It's extremely sick and unfortunately more common than people realize. I'd reccommend anyone who lives in the states on pages 3-4 of this report get in touch with their reps and register discontent with abrogation of end-of-life directives.

Now this does sidestep some of the process, which could be an issue, but with something like this its probably just a formality.

Captain Awkward had a good column on pregnancy and unsolicited advice/stories/whatever: http://captainawkward.com/2013/01/14/432…

Also, think early and often about where your boundaries are, particularly in the workplace. There were definitely times when someone said something, and I replied reflexively, only to…

Not really. My husband was seriously ill and needed abdominal surgery when I first got pregnant a couple years ago, and it made a lot of sexual stuff that I didn't think would be difficult difficult. Bending, sitting up between waves of nausea, vertigo, shortness of breath. Even if it was just the shortness of breath,…

Caveat: breastfeeding moms might be well-served by going soft on breasts, particularly right on the important bits. Depends on your skin type, though. I could only do soft cloth and water, some of my friends didn't change their routine at all.

And we should feel bad to be made fun by racists ... why, exactly?

And even if it's not lethal, people do change the way they look at you. A friend f mine had a blog post a bit ago that I'm not able to find right now where she detailed being at a work conference while pregnant. When people noticed, they were excited for her, and wanted to talk about the baby and stuff ... which…

Yeah. I'm an evolutionary biologist by training, and my perspective on the whole 'only 40% of adults can digest milk' thing is smoke 'em if you got 'em. I know it's meant to be funny, but it's just such a weird argument that I can't parse it totally as humor, but can't take it seriously as an opinion. Uncanny valley…

Confused her with Katie Dries, whoops.

Yeah, but those stories are about filthy southerners and disproprtionately affect minorities. This story is about how a white lady feels about beverages.

This was almost my exact situation. I interviewed doulas, and was having twins. I was open about being open to pain medication, though I wnted to labor at home for as long as possible and avoid medication. I'm a biologist by trade; I have a PhD and am capable of reading an evaluating scientific literature, and did on…

This was more-or-less why I didn't have one. I considered birthing centers and doulas, but I didn't feel comfortable with the level of evasion I got asking reasonable questions at the birthing center. So I thought, hospital labor + doula. I interviewed a few doulas, and they were very agenda-driven and more pushy…

I think some people (especially men in power) feel a certain entitlement and even if a ban on student-professor relationships doesn't quash them completely, it still reminds these people that the university does not support their sense of entitlement.

"Gotta hear both sides'" brings along , it's ugly sibling, 'I'm the real feminist'. Good Men Project, a couple years back, posted a couple pieces of rape apologia, including an interview with an unrepentant rapist who intends to keep raping. And they did so under the guise of 'We're the real feminists, we want to know…

So, if the context had been 'I wanted to paint my nails, not have sex', you wouldn't have believed her?

That's the short of it. Gamergate is also pretty tightly tied in to Men's Right Activism and other groups for misogynists. Particularly STEM misogynists who feel that something is being taken away from them by increasing women's participation in STEM fields.

I wonder if that kid really had pertussis. We had an outbreak at the school where I did my PhD. Multiple people were hospitalized, I was sick for three months. Several expectant women miscarried. It was bad.

I'm so sorry to hear that, and thank you for sharing.

Thanks. In a weird way, it was like an out-of-body experience. I have no recollection of the event. What I really remember is my friends condemning him to my face, but continuing to be friends with him, and inviting me to things with him, etc. It was like living some sort of weird, meta drama about rape culture.