There are lots of things that might make long-term sense that are hard to swing short term (this is the whole reason payday loans exist). For us, it was an easy choice, my husband needed to transfer professional certifications after a move, which would take some time. For two infants, we would have been out about ~600…

Wow. Her partner must have a really good job. Med school student loans are serious business. I can't imagine.

I dunno, I am really sympathetic to that argument. Daycare is really, really expensive. My husband and I worked out all the costs, and if we both worked, we would have been spending more money than we could afford every month. It's nice to talk about the irrelevancy of money to your calling, but for a lot of couples,…

But when every study shows it's near impossible to do that, and that men are near universally leading the results in these polls, it might be time to stop serving up so much well-intentioned bullshit and stop calling this egalitarian. After all, how does anything change if we're all believing our own myths?

Yeah, I'm very upset about this post. At my new job, I spend a lot of time thinking about recruitment, and that this is what people in the most privileged classes promote as effective is completely disgusting. Not to mention the potential liability this exposes well-meaning hiring pros to. Say I have a great…

You might call them bad managers, those of us with experiences being members of disadvantaged groups call them pretty common or the norm. In the comment that Dave deleted, I linked to Nitisha's piece on the very real effects these sorts of tests have on women and minorites. Why publish a piece advocating for a metric…

I'm curious about why you're asking this question of a person with a white, male name, rather than responding to any of the comments (some from people who have been disadvantaged by this type of hiring) you've received about racial, gender and religious exclusion with this type of hiring process. Do you feel that…

Can you do something about 'Beer Test' article that went up over the weekend? The author of it is reacting really badly to criticism and deleting posts that disagree with the article's thesis on the basis of racial, sexual, relgious, etc. discrimination. I don't think that author is capable of managing the discussion,…

Careful, this author tends to make posts go down the memory hole when someone disagrees with him.

You never have anything to talk about with people who are like you? I find that if I have common ground, I often have a lot to talk about. Movies, music, goofy things our parents did growing up.

Yeah. In my field, 'culture fit/beer test' more-or-less means 'no girls allowed'. Absolutely think about the qualities involved with a functioning and friendly workplace. But you're hiring an employee, not a new best friend.

I'm a scientist by trade. I would rather that people make statements that are supported by the evidence in front of them than make assumptions about me.

From the article:

It's almost like the real purpose is expelling women from gaming.

You'd think she'd be the ethical journalism hero, since rather than working for a big publisher that takes money from games companies, she struck out on her own and got fan funds.

Here's what I don't get: Anita Sarkeesian raised all her own funds to provide entertainment and critique for her fans. If #GamerGate is about ethics and moneyed interests corrupting games journalism, how is she not the very model of what writers ought to be doing? I've seen GGers claim Angry Harry is the tops, and I…

But if this is about corruption and moneyed interests, her message shouldn't matter. She's still doing what most gamergaters seem to posit journalists should be doing.

I don't disagree with you that earlier notice is better than later, but there are also good reasons why people might need to be married sooner rather than later, or might only have time off around holidays (the case with my last job, for example). I don't think judgment is really appropriate or warranted.

Oh, that's beautiful. I tell all my friends who are planning weddings to get used to saying "I'm sorry you feel that way, but this is how we're doing things." Everyone has an opinion about how other adults should get married.

I really only like reading wedding articles for the totally unhinged lack of perspective. 'Eugh, it's so insensitive to invite me to this thing I don't want to go to.' I guess I'm happy for these people that the worst thing they have going is that their friends care about them for some unknown reason.