I think I would agree with you more if the conversation wasn't always how to make cishet more welcomed in queer spaces. We are so focused on not losing our allies that we aren't allowed to hurt their feelings or let them feel the discomfort we put up with pretty much all day, everyday. Read more
:) *high five*
I struggle with the same thing. Relatives are infuriating...
Ugh, honestly to me allyship shouldn't even exist (let alone added to the community acronym, that's just asinine). Non queer folk shouldn't get some stupid special name just because they don't hate us.
Also holy fuck are the comments on that piece terribad (and these are people willing to put their real names to it),… Read more
I was thinking of doing something like this. I made a series of tweets earlier today. A kind of brief over view of Stonewall and it's aftermath. A post would be cool.
You would be shocked at how often this question is asked of gay men. Straight people are obsessed with knowing who is the "man" and who is the "woman." What they're really asking is "Who takes it up the ass?" They're asking because they need to know who "the boss" is in every relationship. They can't conceive of a… Read more
Exactly. Cis-Het people have no reason to question heteronormativity, or explore the difference between sexual identy and gender identity. It just doesn't exist in their world. We can't fault/punish them for that. I applaud cis/het people who are willing to sit and listen regarding this issue.
Ugh. I've been in this situation before. A very good friend, who was very, very supportive, asked me the same thing. "Who's the wife, and who's the husband." Rather than attacking her, I basically shook my head, sighed deeply, and explained why this question was offensive. There was resistence. There were more… Read more