IncendiaryWit
incendiarywit
Jan 26 2015
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Jesus. Silver lining: at least it's your family vs him instead of your family vs you? Hooray for family members who aren't total homophobic assholes :)

Jan 19 2015
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Different strokes :) I can definitely see your point! The reason that I personally feel people like my brother need a label is because there aren't enough people like him yet. And until we get to that point, I think it's important to recognize those efforts. But like I said, I can see where you're coming from as well.

Jan 19 2015
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You make a good point about allyship, but to me I don't consider someone an ally just because they don't hate us. I consider my brother an ally because he actively engages in queer culture for my benefit even though he's straight himself, has come with me to LGBT events when I was in college, and works in real life Read more

Jan 19 2015
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I struggle with this so hard in my real life. I get tired of giving the benefit of the doubt and having to teach grown people things they should learn themselves if they call themselves allies. Online it's easier because I can type out a whole response and not be interrupted, or choose to step away if I'm clearly not Read more

Jan 19 2015
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They're asking because they need to know who "the boss" is in every relationship. They can't conceive of a relationship where the two people involved are equal. Read more

Jan 19 2015
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They're not exclusive, you're right. But when you make it alllll about you when you're called on that inappropriate behavior versus apologizing and learning from it? You're no ally to me. Read more

Jan 16 2015
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I'd never even bothered to take a look at CGT up until this whole thing happened, and I'm so creeped out by the posters who I thought were cool people but are spending time over there cracking up at our "sensitivity." Read more

Jan 16 2015
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Oh wow. I'm not on twitter so I didn't know that any of that took place. This makes me feel like they just assumed in their email reply to me that I was one of these "cronies." Gross.

Jan 16 2015
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I have a lot of complicated thoughts on whether passing for straight or being assumed straight is actually a privilege. But that's a totally different topic. Read more

Jan 16 2015
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Yeah I still don't get what that's all about. The conversation was clearly taking place on GT itself, and I'm not even on twitter so that part especially confused me.

Jan 16 2015
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To echo bassoonlady, is there anything that we as a group can do to help you feel comfortable here?

Jan 16 2015
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If you're unfollowed do all your comments revert back to pending? Maybe that's what happened to me too.

Jan 16 2015
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It's always your own choice. Don't worry about any sense of responsibility to the movement or anything :) it's about you and your comfort level. What I can tell you from my own coming out experience though, is that my anxiety almost immediately went away once it was out there for the world to know. And other people's Read more

Jan 15 2015
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It seems to be the ones who came out as bi, and then that was kind of it, that I see pulling this shit over and over. Especially, women who came out as bi, but who seem to only ever experience discrimination from other lgbtq people, and who are primarily upset that others would think them less queer. They seem to be Read more

Jan 15 2015
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Thank you for the compliment too, I really appreciate it. I'm not sure anyone who needed to hear it was really listening anyway, but I did my best!

Jan 15 2015
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Hey I'll take insightful over concise any day, rambling is very much my style lol :)

Jan 15 2015
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This is pretty much exactly what I was trying to say, but much better worded than my own comment I think :) It was a long day at work for me and I'm exhausted mentally at this point. I'm not sure if you meant that you don't understand my point or that you didn't get it when it was brought up on the mod talk post, but Read more