As a sex worker who has had a path similar to that of the show’s main character, I’m both curious and slightly terrified to see what it, and the accompanying public discourse, is like.

Having lost my mother and a boyfriend to suicide, I feel for this woman and can appreciate “you have value” sentiments, but they just aren’t true for everyone and I sometimes think that kind of blanket thinking can do more harm than good.

Yep. I’ve been in therapy for a few years, actually. But I don’t think this is me being crazy. Most men vastly preferring young girls, either through only dating ones under 30 if they are single or cheating with one/ wishing they could cheat with one if they are married, is a real thing.

Technically I won on one count (keeping my security deposit illegally) but lost all the others and I think sexism did have a hand in it. She seemed very charmed by his little old man routine - she even let him take a phone call at the bench. She also entered the verdict as dismissed instead of being in my favor…

My old landlord used to let himself into my apartment without giving notice. There were 3 incidents when he did so and I was home and in various states of undress, leading me to yell at him to get out and him to take his sweet fucking time doing so.

Yes. 100%. Solitary means you sit in a cell by yourself. You eat by yourself in your cell. If you are ever allowed outside, it’s by yourself (with a guard). You get to shower less frequently and, depending on the prison, you might not be allowed to have reading or writing materials. People literally lose their minds.

We do not sell our bodies (it took a lot of restraint to not write that in all caps). It is the rescue industry and women like you who have decided that when someone gives a woman money for time that might include physical contact that the client then somehow owns us. That isn’t how we operate and it isn’t how most…

But you don’t really seem to get the actual big picture which is people who are not sex workers telling us what our lives are like and how they should be lived is hugely objectifying and has the potential to cause a significant amount of harm.

She does look super young but she's actually older than him (only by a year)!

I’m kind of heartened by the fact that Justin Bieber probably has a lot of options when it comes to ladies but is still pining for Selena (and I’m assuming she doesn’t find it creepy because she’s liking the photos...it would not be cute if it was a stalker situation, obviously). Like, he could probably have a whole…

I think we judge it because it feels better than dealing with reality, which is we get about a 12 year window of having romantic/sexual value and men never really stop having it. Can you imagine if after you turned 30 you became a non-option to women? Or being in bed with a woman knowing she’s prefer you had the body…

I wrote about this on another thread, but I’m 34 soon-to-be-35 and dating in a major city, and had to have a come to Jesus moment with myself that most men my age and older Do Not Want women over 30. I mean, they might have sex with women over 30, but they’re resentfully wishing that we’re the 22 year old barista he…

It would be! But instead we rail men for only wanting to date women under 30, when I’m sure if they could tweak themselves to be differently, they would. As much as it sucks for women my age, people just are how they are.

I didn’t say you did; I was just agreeing that I see the appeal, too. It’s great that you are happily married to someone close to your age, but I would also not be surprised if a few years from now you’re looking for a side piece in her 20s because while you might not want a divorce, the appeal of young girls is only…

I ended that after I found that out because even though she was legal, I found it a little squicky. But in general I don’t think these men are special cases.

I used to totally rail on guys like you, but I've reached this sort of zen place where I'm slowly accepting that most men don't want a woman over 30, especially if he has access to girls in their late teens and 20s. Being shitty to dudes about it doesn't make it any less true (or make me any less single). I think…

I don't think so? I'm not sure if there's a lot more men here than women. That super sucks that you had to deal with that.

No, I’m in Chicago but I think men here have LA standards now. I got myself from a size 8 to a size 4 and am about to spend 18 months of rent on breast implants and work on my face to try and compete. The frustrating thing is that it might not even work because no amount of surgery can make a 35 year old into a 25…

Definitely not dating rich and famous people. Just normal, middle of the road dudes off dating sites. But I think you nailed it in that most had dated girks in their teens and 20s before and can't go back.

I'm in Chicago but one of these was in New York. I also dated someone a few years ago who lived in San Francisco who dumped me after six months because I was over 25 and no one would be jealous of him. So I don't know if it's regional. But maybe?