That is SUCH a great explanation of the difference between having preferences for physical characteristics and having a racist point of view. I've discussed this endlessly with friends and never managed to phrase it so clearly! Well done!

This really had to be said! Suffering from body dysmorphia doesn't make us incapable of understanding and accepting body positivity, or *GASP* even applying it to other people (yes, we're not all out shaming others). We're not irrational or blind. We just have a lot of difficulty with how and who we are, whatever the…

It's a really neat idea, but I can't see how to use it alongside my super-complicated system: clothes divided by type (trousers/tops/skirts/dresses), then colour (from dark to light) and length (shorter to longer so it's easy to see what's in there). I suppose most people don't go this far with closet organisation…

I was about to say, what a great scientific device for an eating disorder! :P

I know! So now fearlessness to try new things = doing meaningless crap and writing a blog about it.
I think I liked it better when I didn't find out everyday how stupid and empty people can be. This internet free-for-all is kind of depressing.

Also, Rodrigo Santoro is Brazilian and we're not really hispanic (Portuguese colonisation). Just saying!

Here's an honest question for everyone in North America: why are people there often so clueless about how miscigenation works? Even if it's not prevalent, it can't be *that rare* (I don't know any numbers), and I've noticed that in countries where miscigenation is prevalent folks are generally not surprised or…

Wow, this thread is the story of my life. Not so long ago I realised I'd been struggling with disordered eating for most of my life without knowing that's what it was - mostly because everyone I knew always validated those patterns of behaviour as normal or even necessary because I "looked fat". I've had a huge row…

Oh yes. Been there in both situations. There's such a prevalent idea that you must at all times be searching for a relationship or unhappy because you're not in one. And some people really can't related with singledom...(and isn't that super odd? They must have been single at some point!). These days I sometimes find…

This may be really, really relevant, although I don't think it's really about wanting a relationship. I have a couple of friends who are 100% focused on their relationships and sometimes it's just much better to hang out with the singles - not because of some sort of couple envy but because these coupled-up friends…

I'll second that. I watched it recently and it's a great film..plus it successfully avoids a lot of tropes about teenage girls.

It's hilarious how people often forget that the existence or lack of thigh gaps can be related to...hips! Such a noticeable thing it is too. I'm short and large-boned but my hips are not wide, so there's absolutely no possibility for a thigh gap. Do people just really suck at understanding how much bone structure…

Preach sister. My facebook timeline seems to be covered in nauseatingly smug couples sharing tons of clichés quotes (and cliché pictures), laughable humble brags and endless TMI. I fear for the future.

See that's something people often choose to forget. It's fairly easy for your average caucasian person to be outraged that someone of another ethnicity feels like they need to change their appearance... because they often can't imagine what it's like to be completely outside of the western beauty standard, WHICH IS…

Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for sharing your stories. I've recently turned 30 and have had a little experience that was mostly pretty bad, so between bad memories and self-esteem issues (and a zillion friends in terribly uninspiring relationships) I've been feeling pretty bleak on the idea of dating at all.…

Ah Couchsurfing can be great fun, you really should try it! I used to hang out in expat groups and it was always a cool experience. Hope you enjoy Paris! I'm a little lost as to which activities I could do here to meet people, will have to look up more things...and maybe REMIND people I know that I'm around and…

Any expats around? I've just moved back home after six years abroad and I've been having trouble getting any sort of social life. My old uni classmates meet occasionally but are too busy to do more than that. My former high school friends didn't really keep in touch after I left school in the last year; I'd love to…

I don't know why, but it keeps happening around me. Maybe these guys are generally more immature or just having trouble knowing what they want. Either way, if I had a dollar for every guy friend who's settling for a shallow, dull 21 yo (and then constantly complaining said 21yo is shallow and dull)... :/

Hm interesting, I was visiting Vancouver about 10 days ago and got the opposite impression. I felt positively enormous with my Italian/Portuguese/African curves, but it was the first time I noticed lots of tiny flat bums and skinny legs with apparent cellulite.

Just wanted to say you're right: criticising men's looks and body types like that is not acceptable and not cool. It's a bit sad that this sort of thing has been popping up in Jezebel disguised as comedy, as it often happens in media that does not declare themselves as supporters of gender equality. I know what it's…