I'm sorry but this is bullshit. If you heard probably 99% of the pop stars these days sing live "unplugged" with no reverb or accompaniment I doubt it would be much better. Beyonce can't sing half as well. Mariah has some def vocal problems, wear and tear from all the riffing and over singing, but this is unfair…

"As a woman of size I get some weird, fucked up harassment that is threatening and hostile in a way that wasn't portrayed in the video either. "

I totally get what you mean. As woman of color the harassment is bad.... the racist harassment is worse... so much so that I hardly notice the regular harassment as harassment…

Originally when I heard the criticism of the video I was like "I get it but at the same time, don't minimize the lived experience of the girl in the video though'. But after seeing this I really respect what these women have put together. It's hard out here for all of us. As a woman of size I get some weird, fucked up…

I love you for saying this. Look, this Ghomeshi guy is surely a creep and probably a rapist, but for the love of pete, I don't need to hear the phrase "experienced kinkster and professional dominatrix" twice in as many paragraphs. (And "kinkster"? Really?)

No I meant consensual sex. We do all sorts of mental gymnastics to avoid talking about non-consensual encounters or even taking them seriously, but we freak out over sex with consenting partners.

My mother's advice was that I should ride a few stallions before I pick one. I think she was slightly bummed when I married the only stallion I'd ever ridden.

I grew up with my sister, too. I didn't know about the abuse until after she was dead.

Off the top of my head, I can think of at least 5 different women I've known over the years who were physically abused by their partners. Of this group, two I'd actually seen attacked; one I only found out about after her husband died in a car crash and she went through a major confidence transformation; one was my…

Been seeing this since 7th grade, the first time I had a female friend who was victimized by a boyfriend. It was new to me then, I couldn't comprehend the victim's mentality, and it frustrated me to no end.

Thank you for writing this, Diana.

I just want to say how impressed I am by Deadspin's coverage of this whole thing. Just beyond impressed.

I can't count the number of "Why Did She Stay With Him" articles I saw.

Thanks for this. I've been yelling this at my tv and radio for weeks now. I taught in a women's prison and had countless women in my class with the same stories. I had a woman whose husband essentially scalped her with a 2x4, beat her repeatedly, threw her through a glass door, brought home his girlfriend beat her in…

I was always dimly aware of this cycle, but this article really puts it all together in a really cogent way. Given the nature of the topic, it's hard to say this is an "excellent article", but excellent article.

Thank you.

For men who are murdered, the percentage killed by someone they're intimate with hovers at about 2 to 3 percent.

This is one of the most cogent things I've read about this story. Thank you.

"A woman saying yes to a date with a man is literally insane and ill-advised, and the whole species' existence counts on them doing it. I don't know how they...how do women still go out with guys, when you consider the fact that there is no greater threat to women than men? We're the number one threat to women.…

Thank you for this, it is very insightful and very good work. If anything this whole incident has shed light on the largely-ignored domestic violence problem in this country.